Men’s Mental Health Challenge

[Jmort1754]

I hit the lowest point of my life just over 3 years ago. I had broken off an engagement to a nasty manipulative woman, I was traveling and I had just met a new girl. I thought I was on top of the world.

Then a car pulled in front of me of me and I swerved to not kill her or myself. I jumped the median and thought I was fine until my right leg and lower back went numb. Less than an hour later a doctor friend showed me a picture and told me that if I sit up I will not walk again. I was put in a helicopter and flown to a trauma center for emergency surgery to decompress my spinal cord and reconstruct / fuse my spine. 16 days of pretty much complete isolation (thanks Covid) in a hospital. During this time, 2 months into my new relationship we found she was pregnant and was having a miscarriage. I was however severely depressed, feeling like I had no way out and wanting to just off myself.

My new girl stuck by my side, was a positive reinforcement of everything good in my life and just a non judgemental sounding board. She just reiterated that I was able to walk again, I was not pissing and shitting in bag and I could feel part of my leg.

It took time, it took a lot ot self reflection and a ton of support but I was able to get my head up, put a step forward, look at the positives and not the negatives. Today we have a 1 year old menace of a son, a relationship that continues to grow and I have a new outlook on life.

I say this because true rock bottom only allows for an upward trajectory.
Prayer
Positive relationships

Find your joy.

 

[lyle_destroys]

I hit the lowest point of my life just over 3 years ago. I had broken off an engagement to a nasty manipulative woman, I was traveling and I had just met a new girl. I thought I was on top of the world.

Then a car pulled in front of me of me and I swerved to not kill her or myself. I jumped the median and thought I was fine until my right leg and lower back went numb. Less than an hour later a doctor friend showed me a picture and told me that if I sit up I will not walk again. I was put in a helicopter and flown to a trauma center for emergency surgery to decompress my spinal cord and reconstruct / fuse my spine. 16 days of pretty much complete isolation (thanks Covid) in a hospital. During this time, 2 months into my new relationship we found she was pregnant and was having a miscarriage. I was however severely depressed, feeling like I had no way out and wanting to just off myself.

My new girl stuck by my side, was a positive reinforcement of everything good in my life and just a non judgemental sounding board. She just reiterated that I was able to walk again, I was not pissing and shitting in bag and I could feel part of my leg.

It took time, it took a lot ot self reflection and a ton of support but I was able to get my head up, put a step forward, look at the positives and not the negatives. Today we have a 1 year old menace of a son, a relationship that continues to grow and I have a new outlook on life.

I say this because true rock bottom only allows for an upward trajectory.
Prayer
Positive relationships

Find your joy.

Good for you man. A lot of guys hit that point but never see the light on the other side. Glad you’re doing well.

 

[tim64]

I am Lucky to have a lovely wife, great kids and grandkids. I never take any of them for granted, we are all healthy and happy so I am thankful for that. I worry alot about the world we are in, the general incivility I either witness or hear in the news. I understand folks have many struggles for many reasons but I just dont understand the physical violence and verbal abuse that occurs. thanks

 

[IDVortex]

I hit the lowest point of my life just over 3 years ago. I had broken off an engagement to a nasty manipulative woman, I was traveling and I had just met a new girl. I thought I was on top of the world.

Then a car pulled in front of me of me and I swerved to not kill her or myself. I jumped the median and thought I was fine until my right leg and lower back went numb. Less than an hour later a doctor friend showed me a picture and told me that if I sit up I will not walk again. I was put in a helicopter and flown to a trauma center for emergency surgery to decompress my spinal cord and reconstruct / fuse my spine. 16 days of pretty much complete isolation (thanks Covid) in a hospital. During this time, 2 months into my new relationship we found she was pregnant and was having a miscarriage. I was however severely depressed, feeling like I had no way out and wanting to just off myself.

My new girl stuck by my side, was a positive reinforcement of everything good in my life and just a non judgemental sounding board. She just reiterated that I was able to walk again, I was not pissing and shitting in bag and I could feel part of my leg.

It took time, it took a lot ot self reflection and a ton of support but I was able to get my head up, put a step forward, look at the positives and not the negatives. Today we have a 1 year old menace of a son, a relationship that continues to grow and I have a new outlook on life.

I say this because true rock bottom only allows for an upward trajectory.
Prayer
Positive relationships

Find your joy.

And in the end, you have a amazing wife and a child. That's a win. Needless to say, my wife has stayed by my side then most folks have. Wives are a priceless thing that us guys take for granted way to much.

 

[Sizthediz]

God's not done with me/ready for me yet. That's what I live for. Family and then this beautiful country. I live for the day I can sit on my wrap around porch watching the sun rise or fall onto the mountains sipping coffee or bourbon

 

[Jmort1754]

And in the end, you have an amazing wife and a child. That's a win. Needless to say, my wife has stayed by my side then most folks have. Wives are a priceless thing that us guys take for granted way too much.

isn't that the truth. Shes pulled me through some of my darkest days. Whether it's my accident or stress from my time in the box she's saved me more than I deserve.

 

[IDVortex]

God's not done with me/ready for me yet. That's what I live for. Family and then this beautiful country. I live for the day I can sit on my wrap around porch watching the sun rise or fall onto the mountains sipping coffee or bourbon

This reminds me of Jeremy Camps song 'These days'

 

[lyle_destroys]

Been busy and slipping with checking in here lately. Hope everyone is having a good hunting and holiday season. Ups and downs are normal. Keep your head up when you’re in the deep water, keep swimming, you’ll get to the other side.