Men’s Mental Health Challenge

[Jmort1754]

I hit the lowest point of my life just over 3 years ago. I had broken off an engagement to a nasty manipulative woman, I was traveling and I had just met a new girl. I thought I was on top of the world.

Then a car pulled in front of me of me and I swerved to not kill her or myself. I jumped the median and thought I was fine until my right leg and lower back went numb. Less than an hour later a doctor friend showed me a picture and told me that if I sit up I will not walk again. I was put in a helicopter and flown to a trauma center for emergency surgery to decompress my spinal cord and reconstruct / fuse my spine. 16 days of pretty much complete isolation (thanks Covid) in a hospital. During this time, 2 months into my new relationship we found she was pregnant and was having a miscarriage. I was however severely depressed, feeling like I had no way out and wanting to just off myself.

My new girl stuck by my side, was a positive reinforcement of everything good in my life and just a non judgemental sounding board. She just reiterated that I was able to walk again, I was not pissing and shitting in bag and I could feel part of my leg.

It took time, it took a lot ot self reflection and a ton of support but I was able to get my head up, put a step forward, look at the positives and not the negatives. Today we have a 1 year old menace of a son, a relationship that continues to grow and I have a new outlook on life.

I say this because true rock bottom only allows for an upward trajectory.
Prayer
Positive relationships

Find your joy.

 

[lyle_destroys]

I hit the lowest point of my life just over 3 years ago. I had broken off an engagement to a nasty manipulative woman, I was traveling and I had just met a new girl. I thought I was on top of the world.

Then a car pulled in front of me of me and I swerved to not kill her or myself. I jumped the median and thought I was fine until my right leg and lower back went numb. Less than an hour later a doctor friend showed me a picture and told me that if I sit up I will not walk again. I was put in a helicopter and flown to a trauma center for emergency surgery to decompress my spinal cord and reconstruct / fuse my spine. 16 days of pretty much complete isolation (thanks Covid) in a hospital. During this time, 2 months into my new relationship we found she was pregnant and was having a miscarriage. I was however severely depressed, feeling like I had no way out and wanting to just off myself.

My new girl stuck by my side, was a positive reinforcement of everything good in my life and just a non judgemental sounding board. She just reiterated that I was able to walk again, I was not pissing and shitting in bag and I could feel part of my leg.

It took time, it took a lot ot self reflection and a ton of support but I was able to get my head up, put a step forward, look at the positives and not the negatives. Today we have a 1 year old menace of a son, a relationship that continues to grow and I have a new outlook on life.

I say this because true rock bottom only allows for an upward trajectory.
Prayer
Positive relationships

Find your joy.

Good for you man. A lot of guys hit that point but never see the light on the other side. Glad you’re doing well.

 

[tim64]

I am Lucky to have a lovely wife, great kids and grandkids. I never take any of them for granted, we are all healthy and happy so I am thankful for that. I worry alot about the world we are in, the general incivility I either witness or hear in the news. I understand folks have many struggles for many reasons but I just dont understand the physical violence and verbal abuse that occurs. thanks

 

[IDVortex]

I hit the lowest point of my life just over 3 years ago. I had broken off an engagement to a nasty manipulative woman, I was traveling and I had just met a new girl. I thought I was on top of the world.

Then a car pulled in front of me of me and I swerved to not kill her or myself. I jumped the median and thought I was fine until my right leg and lower back went numb. Less than an hour later a doctor friend showed me a picture and told me that if I sit up I will not walk again. I was put in a helicopter and flown to a trauma center for emergency surgery to decompress my spinal cord and reconstruct / fuse my spine. 16 days of pretty much complete isolation (thanks Covid) in a hospital. During this time, 2 months into my new relationship we found she was pregnant and was having a miscarriage. I was however severely depressed, feeling like I had no way out and wanting to just off myself.

My new girl stuck by my side, was a positive reinforcement of everything good in my life and just a non judgemental sounding board. She just reiterated that I was able to walk again, I was not pissing and shitting in bag and I could feel part of my leg.

It took time, it took a lot ot self reflection and a ton of support but I was able to get my head up, put a step forward, look at the positives and not the negatives. Today we have a 1 year old menace of a son, a relationship that continues to grow and I have a new outlook on life.

I say this because true rock bottom only allows for an upward trajectory.
Prayer
Positive relationships

Find your joy.

And in the end, you have a amazing wife and a child. That's a win. Needless to say, my wife has stayed by my side then most folks have. Wives are a priceless thing that us guys take for granted way to much.