dangerousD
WKR
Been thinking about this for a day now...I have no real answers or good perspective to give either way. I think when there are kids in the picture, you owe it to them to do everything within your power to keep the family together. I think that's possible, even if there has been infidelity. If she loved you before, then there's no reason you can't find that again and come out the other side stronger than ever. Too many people just give up so easily nowadays and don't take marriage seriously. Heck, my own parents divorced after 18 years and four kids. I was the oldest and in college and it hurt, but my younger siblings had a rough go of it. 20+ years later there are still emotional scars that my younger sisters have from the break-up and the loss of closeness to our dad.
I've been married now for 17 years and four kids and I think things are better than ever. Maybe that's my blind perspective. That said, my wife has been hounding me to read the 5 love languages book... This thread makes me think I should make that a priority. I did watch the Fireproof movie with her though. Points for me, right?
I understand where guys are coming from with the lawyer up quick advice. I just wouldn't go there,,,,,,,yet. Sounds like you have already reached the life changing point and are committed to making it work by doing everything in your power. From everything I've seen, separation is just a precursor to divorce and nearly 80% of the time that's how it ends up. Keep fighting for her and I pray it works out!
I've been married now for 17 years and four kids and I think things are better than ever. Maybe that's my blind perspective. That said, my wife has been hounding me to read the 5 love languages book... This thread makes me think I should make that a priority. I did watch the Fireproof movie with her though. Points for me, right?
I understand where guys are coming from with the lawyer up quick advice. I just wouldn't go there,,,,,,,yet. Sounds like you have already reached the life changing point and are committed to making it work by doing everything in your power. From everything I've seen, separation is just a precursor to divorce and nearly 80% of the time that's how it ends up. Keep fighting for her and I pray it works out!