Men’s Mental Health Challenge

[Speaks]

Good thread - will add that one thing I find helpful is a brutally hard workout first thing in the morning, makes everything else I have to face in the day easier.

Voluntary adversity solves a lot of problems.

 

[Howdoyoulikemenow]

I’m not in a similar situation but I am moving into my own place alone after living with someone for 15 years. I’m in town for now so friends are close unlike for you. Do you have a dog? Look into dating or talking to women just for companionship?

I’ve been given advice for getting a dog. I love dogs and they’re great company. Big responsibility though to do it right. My concern is when I’m not home and/or go on my out of state hunts. I am blessed that I can physically and financially still do those!!

Dating? Yes I have. Just haven’t found anyone I want to “lock it down with”. Women companionship? Yes. Tried that. What I’ve found both times is the gal (s) start out as wanting to be my buddy then next thing is they want more. Odd as it sounds I find that a breech of trust so I shut down and lose someone I thought was my friend. Both times these women meant more to me as friends vs a romantic relationship and I told them up front that’s what I was interested in. And…. Have you tried finding a nice, sane woman in today’s society? Mid sixties age range? Ain’t so easy. Dead serious.

But, I push on. I will not give up.

Happy new year to all.

 

[lyle_destroys]

I’ve been given advice for getting a dog. I love dogs and they’re great company. Big responsibility though to do it right. My concern is when I’m not home and/or go on my out of state hunts. I am blessed that I can physically and financially still do those!!

Dating? Yes I have. Just haven’t found anyone I want to “lock it down with”. Women companionship? Yes. Tried that. What I’ve found both times is the gal (s) start out as wanting to be my buddy then next thing is they want more. Odd as it sounds I find that a breech of trust so I shut down and lose someone I thought was my friend. Both times these women meant more to me as friends vs a romantic relationship and I told them up front that’s what I was interested in. And…. Have you tried finding a nice, sane woman in today’s society? Mid sixties age range? Ain’t so easy. Dead serious.

But, I push on. I will not give up.

Happy new year to all.

At the very least you have the right attitude

 

[lyle_destroys]

Start of a new week for some of us, start of a new beginning for others. Just checking in with everyone. Hope all is well boys

 

[lyle_destroys]

Hello boys, back to check in, bump this to the top. Life has been a changing for me lately. Single, moving, changing jobs. Interesting. Hope life is well for everyone, cabin fever may be setting in for some. Keep your chins up

 

[Howdoyoulikemenow]

Kinda on the fence on staying balanced. For me it’s a daily struggle. God bless all of you guys in the same camp.

 

[jahaze]

We're in the dark,cold recesses of winter. Currently longing for some sunshine and warmer temps. It's hard to find any motivation, but when I do, I feel much better. My message is, don't let yourself give up, spring is on the way!


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[11boo]

Interesting thread. My life is not what I hoped, but it is what it is. I have a lot to be thankful for.

 

[lyingflatlander]

Good thread - will add that one thing I find helpful is a brutally hard workout first thing in the morning, makes everything else I have to face in the day easier.

Speaks nailed it. I joined a gym to get ready before season a couple years ago. I strive for 3 times a week before I go to work year round. I’m in bed by 8 p.m. and up at 4:15 so I can go. Had my knee scoped after Thanksgiving this year for next season and took 6 weeks off at the gym. Man, what a difference! I couldn’t believe how moody and negative I became when I wasn’t going. If you physically can - go! I’m 52 and if I can do it so can you!

 

[Howdoyoulikemenow]

I’m sixty six. Always have tried staying in some semblance of health. I joined a gym before Christmas. Go 3-4 times per week. It’s a bit addictive. It’s an “outing” for me that I look forward to. I generally go early mornings. I keep to myself rarely speaking to anyone. Maybe that’s a spillover from my issues with loneliness?

But it’s a positive outing and I fully plan on continuing.

 

[Howdoyoulikemenow]

How’s everyone doing? I feel it’s important to keep this topic going.

Me? Meh… I try hard every day. Gotta keep pushing through. Take care guys.

 

[Torque]

I wanted very much to kill myself last night. I am grateful it didn't work.

My first wife stopped taking birth control in high school because she knew I would marry her out of obligation. I had broken up with her, but she kept coming around for sex. As a horny 17 year old, I did not say no. We divorced when I was 18 when I found her having sex with my best friend.

From the age of 4 she told my son, who was my padna, that I raped and beat her. His attitude visibly changed toward me and he withdrew into himself. I did not find out what was happening until he was 8, at which point I sued and was granted full custody. At that point though, the damage was done. My son is now 30 and we rarely talk. Even though his mother has since admitted that she lied about it all. His young mind was pulled in two directions and now we speak or see each other rarely. I have tried everything I can think of to repair the relationship. I miss him more than I can express. I cannot express how much I regret the harm done to him during his early years.

I have now been married for 23 years and have a 9 year old daughter. God blessed me with a wonderful daughter who loves me very much. We did not think we could have children. My wife had been off of birth control for 8 years before she became pregnant. Since we before we married, my wife and I have been best friends. There is one subject that we have fought over for literally 20 years.

I was laid off from my job in my early 20s and decided I needed to find a career that I couldn't be fired from or could always find a job in. I went to work from 3am-11am without a lunch break and from 12pm to 930pm went to college 5 days a week. I did this for 4 years until I graduated with my BS and a certification in my trade. I have worked my way up my career and been extremely successful.

God has blessed me with many things; good examples from my father and grandfather, a mind able to learn new skills, determination, affection and loyalty to my family and friends (even though I have few), and good fortune enough to maintain my health when I never saw myself living past 30. I know I have so much that others do not.

I do not know why depression has hit me so hard lately, but the inability to resolve the issue with my wife has truly hurt my soul. I have prayed over and over for guidance, eloquence, and wisdom to know what to do, but nothing has worked.

I do not wish to leave this world because of sadness. It feels more like logic. My wife and daughter would be taken care of for the rest of their lives financially. There would be no more fighting, no more disappointment, and no more loss of love. I not want to go, but sometimes it seems like the right thing to do.


I will be ok. It will all be ok.

 

[Howdoyoulikemenow]

I wanted very much to kill myself last night. I am grateful it didn't work.

My first wife stopped taking birth control in high school because she knew I would marry her out of obligation. I had broken up with her, but she kept coming around for sex. As a horny 17 year old, I did not say no. We divorced when I was 18 when I found her having sex with my best friend.

From the age of 4 she told my son, who was my padna, that I raped and beat her. His attitude visibly changed toward me and he withdrew into himself. I did not find out what was happening until he was 8, at which point I sued and was granted full custody. At that point though, the damage was done. My son is now 30 and we rarely talk. Even though his mother has since admitted that she lied about it all. His young mind was pulled in two directions and now we speak or see each other rarely. I have tried everything I can think of to repair the relationship. I miss him more than I can express. I cannot express how much I regret the harm done to him during his early years.

I have now been married for 23 years and have a 9 year old daughter. God blessed me with a wonderful daughter who loves me very much. We did not think we could have children. My wife had been off of birth control for 8 years before she became pregnant. Since we before we married, my wife and I have been best friends. There is one subject that we have fought over for literally 20 years.

I was laid off from my job in my early 20s and decided I needed to find a career that I couldn't be fired from or could always find a job in. I went to work from 3am-11am without a lunch break and from 12pm to 930pm went to college 5 days a week. I did this for 4 years until I graduated with my BS and a certification in my trade. I have worked my way up my career and been extremely successful.

God has blessed me with many things; good examples from my father and grandfather, a mind able to learn new skills, determination, affection and loyalty to my family and friends (even though I have few), and good fortune enough to maintain my health when I never saw myself living past 30. I know I have so much that others do not.

I do not know why depression has hit me so hard lately, but the inability to resolve the issue with my wife has truly hurt my soul. I have prayed over and over for guidance, eloquence, and wisdom to know what to do, but nothing has worked.

I do not wish to leave this world because of sadness. It feels more like logic. My wife and daughter would be taken care of for the rest of their lives financially. There would be no more fighting, no more disappointment, and no more loss of love. I not want to go, but sometimes it seems like the right thing to do.


I will be ok. It will all be ok.

I’m glad you didn’t. But believe me when I say that I fully understand. I’ve been there and more than once. Recently too.

I try very hard to visualize my children and grandkids. See their faces… How would taking your life make those you leave behind feel? And that feeling would last the remainder of their lives. If you’re like me, do you really want taking your own life as your legacy?

Can you talk with someone? Call a hotline? You have worth and people love and admire you!

 

[Forestryguy]

I wanted very much to kill myself last night. I am grateful it didn't work.

My first wife stopped taking birth control in high school because she knew I would marry her out of obligation. I had broken up with her, but she kept coming around for sex. As a horny 17 year old, I did not say no. We divorced when I was 18 when I found her having sex with my best friend.

From the age of 4 she told my son, who was my padna, that I raped and beat her. His attitude visibly changed toward me and he withdrew into himself. I did not find out what was happening until he was 8, at which point I sued and was granted full custody. At that point though, the damage was done. My son is now 30 and we rarely talk. Even though his mother has since admitted that she lied about it all. His young mind was pulled in two directions and now we speak or see each other rarely. I have tried everything I can think of to repair the relationship. I miss him more than I can express. I cannot express how much I regret the harm done to him during his early years.

I have now been married for 23 years and have a 9 year old daughter. God blessed me with a wonderful daughter who loves me very much. We did not think we could have children. My wife had been off of birth control for 8 years before she became pregnant. Since we before we married, my wife and I have been best friends. There is one subject that we have fought over for literally 20 years.

I was laid off from my job in my early 20s and decided I needed to find a career that I couldn't be fired from or could always find a job in. I went to work from 3am-11am without a lunch break and from 12pm to 930pm went to college 5 days a week. I did this for 4 years until I graduated with my BS and a certification in my trade. I have worked my way up my career and been extremely successful.

God has blessed me with many things; good examples from my father and grandfather, a mind able to learn new skills, determination, affection and loyalty to my family and friends (even though I have few), and good fortune enough to maintain my health when I never saw myself living past 30. I know I have so much that others do not.

I do not know why depression has hit me so hard lately, but the inability to resolve the issue with my wife has truly hurt my soul. I have prayed over and over for guidance, eloquence, and wisdom to know what to do, but nothing has worked.

I do not wish to leave this world because of sadness. It feels more like logic. My wife and daughter would be taken care of for the rest of their lives financially. There would be no more fighting, no more disappointment, and no more loss of love. I not want to go, but sometimes it seems like the right thing to do.


I will be ok. It will all be ok.

Glad you are here today. Life is definitely not how we want it a lot of the time. I would suggest talking with your mentors or a hot line. Work on finding a therapist to work through the things in your head, with your wife and son. Try some of the things that have been posted. Hard workouts or even just 20 min walks to clear head. I have to use a therapy light, omega 3 oils and very high vitamin D doses in the winter to keep my head right. Drop a message if you need someone to talk to. I’ll respond when I can, my shifts vary and can be at all times of day.

 

[jahaze]

Prayers for you torque, you are not alone! You can figure this out, your friends and family need you. There's so much more ahead for you, you need to stick around to see how it all ends up. I believe in you.


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[magtech]

Other than family and all the other hoopla Im currently living to send this to my veteran friend so he knows I'm thinking about him and he doesn't off himself.

He said he loves it when people confuse him with a doctor.

Sometimes the simplest things in life are the most important.