As the old saying goes, “why is divorce so expensive? Because it’s worth it.”
I’ll say this, at this point in life, I am content with being a bachelor. Dating women with kids, X husbands, alimony check fights etc makes the cost not worth the reward. You end up being about #5 on their list of priorities and most are just looking for a guy to provide additional provisions to support their lifestyle and kids anyway. There’s always the option to date women 10-15 years younger, and that’s fine when it comes along. Still, best to just stay a bachelor, make your own money, spend it how you want, do what you want to do when you want to do it. if your are living life well enough, women will fall in your lap with enough occasional regularity that there’s no reason to put effort into impressing or pursuing them. If anything, women have put themselves in a overall social position where they should be ones doing the Pursuing, not men. Let them chase after you, and otherwise stay focused living an excellent life and doing things that make you happy. Unless you want kids or meet the most impressive woman imaginable, marriage is pretty much a raw deal for men.