That is an interesting question.
I think some guys chiming in on here are forgetting something important…. In your entire life - you only get to have ONE FIRST ELK HUNT. You are popping your

, creating a lifetime memory (for you and your son).
You absolutely want it to be a positive experience, and as far as hunting quality goes I’d say WY Gen gets a slight nod over CO OTC. But that wouldn’t be my primary deciding factor…
I think my answer would depend heavily on how good of a friend this was. If he’s someone that you would really enjoy spending time with and enjoy being around then that may be the answer. Is he dependable? Is he the type a person to stick things out? If you have any concerns at all about his commitment levels I’d politely decline. The last thing you want is someone telling you 2 days beforehand that “something really big came up at work”. Or 3 days into a tough hunt he decides that this just isn’t worth it and he’d prefer to save his vacation days to use during rifle season.
BTW, I think it’s worth mentioning here that vice-Vera applies here as well. If you do make a plan to hunt with him, you and your son can’t back out last minute either. I’m sure you wouldn’t, but that could be very tempting when life throws shit at you (like it always tends to do in late august/early September). It’s easier to fight through it when you have a tag, and easier to call it off until next year if you don’t. Your buddy will have foregone weeks of opportunities to make a plan to hunt with a new friend or coworker; and built a hunt plan that was based on having multiple people available to pack out an elk; so you’d be leaving him stranded.
IMO, you will learn a ton either way, so that’s a tie. You probably won’t kill an elk either way, so that’s a tie. I don’t think there’s a bad decision to be made here, so I’d just choose the one that would create the most meaningful experience; and to me that hinges heavily on the strength of the relationship with your buddy and his personality traits.
There is a tremendous amount of satisfaction that comes from calling in a bull (especially a first bull) for a good friend. That would be an amazing experience so I wouldn’t let not having a tag deter you.
I also like the idea of doing both WY and CO, and nothing says that you can’t, but that is a lot to take on. If you do decide to go to WY, I would still build out a hunt plan in CO OTC. Even if you don’t use it this year it will be good practice and you can always bank it for use down the road.
And, if your buddy is new to this as you say, I would also do a bunch of hunt planning in the Gen unit(s) in WY as well. It would be tempting to lean on others in that situation to do all the planning since they are local. But you don’t just want to show up with no idea of where to go. If you make that mistake you will miss out on a huge amount of learning curve. (You just kind’a have to come up with bad plans and learn from the mistakes). Maybe you can give him a few areas to go and scout out ahead of time after work or on weekends?
Good luck either way. I’d love to hear the story of your hunt on the other side.
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