A little lost… career change?

[DapperDan]

Wanted to pick your guys brains, specifically those that have made large career changes

I’m knocking on the door of 30 years old, have a 4 year degree and have been working in the same engineering field since graduating about 8 years ago (3 different jobs, nearly identical work)

This job has great flexibility and allows me to do other things on the side like build a house as the GC but I’ve lost a lot of my ambition and drive in in career. This has been going on for the last 2 or so years

There are days I comment on how I want to do something that makes a difference in the world and potentially helps people/communities (think firefighter as a random example).

But I know that a big career change will likely lead to approx 40% less income and not much time flexibility to do side businesses (only debt I have is about 50% on a home). This reduced time and funds would impact my available funds for my #1 hobby, hunting and shooting


Anyone made a big career change and regretted it? Would love to hear some stories weather they be for or against making large career changes


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Went opposite. Went from helping the community (nurse) to owning my own company and work as a residential and commercial GC.

I’ll take the income and time freedom I have now.

I spent most of my youth and young adult life doing everything for everyone else and never asking for anything in return (friends, family, relationships, strangers)

At 38 and married with a kid on the way in today’s economy with a county that has a FUBAR moral compass I only worry about me and mine.


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[NMJM]

What state do you live in?

 

[IdahoBeav]

I’m knocking on the door of 30 years old, have a 4 year degree and have been working in the same engineering field since graduating about 8 years ago (3 different jobs, nearly identical work)

What type of engineering and what is your degree in? I have a BS in civil engineering. I started on it late and graduated when I was your age. Now I'm 7 years in as a licensed PE and my salary has almost tripled in that time. I can't see a scenario where abandoning the degree and completely changing careers is a good idea. Most problems with work can be fixed by switching employers, and I've done that a few times.

 

[Wrench]

If you can find a way to weasel into hydroelectric, every dam out there is at it's planned service life and always being redesigned.

The budgets in hydro are beyond imagination.

 

[DAOutfitters208]

Best way to appreciate what you have is to spend a few years in shitty jobs, with no time off, terrible bosses, etc.

 

[WV Mountaineer]

Wanted to pick your guys brains, specifically those that have made large career changes

I’m knocking on the door of 30 years old, have a 4 year degree and have been working in the same engineering field since graduating about 8 years ago (3 different jobs, nearly identical work)

This job has great flexibility and allows me to do other things on the side like build a house as the GC but I’ve lost a lot of my ambition and drive in in career. This has been going on for the last 2 or so years

There are days I comment on how I want to do something that makes a difference in the world and potentially helps people/communities (think firefighter as a random example).

But I know that a big career change will likely lead to approx 40% less income and not much time flexibility to do side businesses (only debt I have is about 50% on a home). This reduced time and funds would impact my available funds for my #1 hobby, hunting and shooting


Anyone made a big career change and regretted it? Would love to hear some stories weather they be for or against making large career changes


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In your situation. Buckle down. Find realistic side hustle. A general contractor isn’t going to work unless you want a full time x2 full time job. That’s no joke. Post Covid, you’ll spend more time finding and getting material on the job, then you’ll ever have to do it as a side gig. It’s getting rough out there with availability and lead times when you can find it still in production.

Buckle down. Save and invest money. Stay at your job. Work it. Save your money. Invest invest invest. With added investment capital from a side hustle, you’ll be out in 20 if you’ve already started.

Enjoy life. But, keep the end goal in sight. Money isn’t everything but, that time off is priceless.

 

[el_jefe_pescado]

There have been a lot of good tactical and practical ideas offered up. Before making any moves I would ask if you have checked on your heart recently? Not the physical pump station but the spiritual one.

I am also in my 30s and have a lot of friends who are trying to quench what is ultimately a spiritual thirst (fulfillment, satisfaction, security) with earthly means (money, time, job title, gear, hunts etc). We all know this trap and truthfully, you'll never satisfy that thirst until you start seeking the Lord first...in all things.

 

[tim88]

haven't read through everyone's suggestions so hopefully i'm not duplicating:

- have you checked out the FIRE movement? how far would you be from a coast fire situation?
- you've landed similar jobs over a few years, is it a job you can leave for a year and be fairly confident you can get another job in the field in a year? try a different field but have a safety net of going back to what you know?


I'm not sure what you're doing in the engineering field but lets be honest could you do that and make the money while doing projects for underserviced areas? is that going to be any different than being a lineman and doing storm clean up and running wires from rural america's countryside to the urban areas so everyone can have electricity? I think El-jefe is onto something that it is more an internal struggle. I know i'm 36 same boat, I enjoy my job, i'm self employed but it still doesn't make me who I am, it is just a business that I am good at, I generally enjoy and like you pays the bills and offers flexibility. my goals right now are to hit a more comfortable coast fire number so I can adjust my schedule even greater if I choose to

 

[TimberHunter]

I wanted to thank everyone that has commented on here, I like the contrasting opinions, they add different dimensions to my decision/thoughts.


I’ve been having these unfulfilled thoughts for the last 2-3 years. To try to “fix” the issue, I’ve moved several times including a few hundred of miles away, continued to stack my hunting schedule with more and more hunts every year (maybe too many), bought and sold many trucks, put together several rifles, joined shooting clubs, built several house on the side, joined a church, put together a home gym (use regularly but also go into a gym for social interactions) speak with friends and family and while some of these things have helped, I still have this nagging feeling of not knowing what I want/should be doing in this world

Several people mentioned spiritual solutions, I think there is some big progress to be made in that area but that world is still very muddy to me


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[flathead#2]

I wanted to thank everyone that has commented on here, I like the contrasting opinions, they add different dimensions to my decision/thoughts. I’ve read each comment and think on them through out each day.


I’ve been having these unfilled thoughts for the last 2-3 years. To try to “fix” the issue, I’ve moved hundreds of miles away, continued to stack my hunting schedule with more and more hunts every year (maybe too many), bought and sold many trucks, put together several rifles, joined shooting clubs, built several house on the side, joined a church, put together a home gym (use regularly but also go into a gym for social interactions) speak with fiends and family and while some of these things have helped, I still have these nagging feeling of not knowing what I want/should be doing in this world

Several people mentioned spiritual solutions, I think there is some big progress to be made in that area but that world is still very muddy to me


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Just pray.
It works.

 

[BigNate]

I believe everyone has a purpose. Some don't look to fulfill it. Some run from it knowing what it is. Some are unsure, and need to spend time getting to know what they are called to do. Each is their own.

 

[Fireflyfishing]

As others have said, in today's social media world we look at life as this constantly changing find the easy road to riches path. I can tell you if you have a career that allows you to do things you want, affords you a lifestyle you want, allows time away for your family and passions then figure out a way to be satified. You can start over and make less money and MAY be happier, but you never know. YOU will stary as low man, you will get the shit assignments, shit locations. If you can stomach those things, then fortune favors the bold.

Sage advice here.

 

[KyleR1985]

Having a kid made all the things I don’t like about my job less painful. A dial just got rolled instantly.


It also made all the things I like to do in my free time less enjoyable. A dial just got rolled instantly.


I’m now more motivated to work, and less motivated to do anything without my kid.



But I don’t have to go looking for meaning in life anymore.

 

[HingleMcCringleberry]

Fire fighter might look cool and rewarding, but there's a reason they are among the highest rates of suicide I believe. You see some horrific things you will never get out of your mind.

True, but being able to trade a couple of shifts for 3 weeks off is a positive, plus all the video games, pickleball, and chili!


(joking)

 

[roadrunner]

Another tidbit of advice from life experience: all advice given is biased toward what the person giving the advice has done. What was best for them may not be what's best for you.

The first thing anyone should know about you is that you aren't them...

 

[mjh]

I’ve started, stopped, shifted careers multiple times—to me it’s all part of life—I’m in transition right now—it’ll all work out fine in the end….

 

[yak]

My experience:

I took an engineering role right after college. Climbed the ladder and was well compensated in this large cooperate company. I had flexible time off, but I dreaded going into work come Sunday night. After about 12 years with that company, At the age of 36 I changed companies to a much smaller company doing very similar work, but able to wear many hats and contribute by working with my hands. I did take a ~15% pay cut to change companies with worse medical benefits.

Looking back, the change was one of the best decision I made in my career. I've been there 3.5 years, so we'll see what it looks like in another 5, but I'm much happier working for a small company. I'm making the same now as my previous employer, unlimited time off and although it still feels like a job most days, I'm a better husband, father and friend when I'm not counting the minutes until I get to go home from work.

You might be able to stay in your field, make a little less $ to maintain flexible time-off AND enjoy your work. Like others have mentioned, its still a job and hard to find one that is enjoyable everyday. Your going to have good days and bad days at any career.

 

[MJB]

Go teach something you know about or start a business.

 

[Bama67]

the comedy show "Tires" had a great line about this "He died like a Man. Under a car, doing a job he hated" lol

 

[SloppyJ]

Not sure that you've clarified what type of Engineering you do but here's my story. I related to what you said about giving back and kind of finding a bigger purpose than just working for someone else.

I took CAD classes in highschool for some reason. It came natural to me and i'm very mechanically minded so it ended up really clicking in my head. When I was doing this, CAD was just starting to get big and adopted industry wide. My friend's dad was a department head at a local civil engineering firm that works nationwide and got me an internship at 17yo as I was about to graduate. I got thrown into a team doing gas station design across the country. I knew absolutely nothing going into it but I started to figure it out, I showed up everyday, and I busted my ass and made myself someone everyone could count on which lead to me being hired full time that first summer. I worked this job full time all the way through college for 6yrs. It took me that long because I was working and I refused to take out any loans. I was the first to graduate college in my family and to me, that made me very proud.

I got to see what PEs did day to day and I wasn't that guy to sit in an office and get fed work through a slit in my door. I wanted to be outside, in the field. I changed my major to Environmental, Soil and Water science and finished strong all while working at the same firm. Once I graduated, I was offered a job at another local firm but they specialized in local work. This was game changing for me. Instead of designing sites, storm drainage, utilities..etc and never seeing how they get installed, I was front and center for the whole ride. I worked on client issues, got to permit my projects through the city and be on-site all the way through final acceptance. This is where I learned everything and it finally started to click. I enjoy new problems and being with a project through construction allowed me to experience all of the surprises and I got to figure out how to fix them. I was basically running as a one man shop from real estate acquisition through design and final acceptance.

The problem at this stage was that I was the AutoCAD guru everywhere I went. At this point I had been running AutoCAD for about 80% of my day for going on 15yrs. I was great at it and there wasn't much that I couldn't do with the software. However, I was burnt out. I was married at this time and we had our first child. I wasn't about to make a stupid move just because I was "unhappy".

One of the guys from the city that I had gotten to be friends with called me one day and asked me if I'd be interested working at the Water Utilities Department to start up their engineering division. I'd be reviewing plans instead of drawing them, I'd be dealing with the public on all sorts of questions, and if all goes well, I'd be building my own little team. I crunched some numbers and with the 28yr retirement, I could shave about 5yrs off of my typical retirement age if I took the job. The insurance was great, I would get off at 4pm instead of 5 and there's a lot of paid holidays. I decided to take the position even though I had no idea about installing or maintaining hundreds of miles of water and sewer lines.

Working with the public has been both frustrating and satisfying at the same time. I've really enjoyed the switch and as of today I have built up a 10 person team and we are accomplishing things that no other water utility in the state have been able to do. I've learned all about an entire new field while still being able to pull from my previous experience to make sound decisions. I've changed so much policy here for the better due to my past experience and hearing people compliment my team and what I've built is always feels like a top tier accomplishment.

So maybe think about how you can pivot. Is there something in a different field that's still related that could be tempting to get into? I would have a hard time starting over from scratch in a field I have no experience in. I'm not against it if that's what I need to do but I've been able to leverage my work ethic, personality, and drive to make it in any experience that I've been put into. At the end of the day, it's a job. I think it's a bit of a fairy tale to think you're going to do something that you love everyday.