I agree to a point. Lets just take our house for example. Total cost (mortgage and all utilities) is around 3K a month. Lets say pre 2020, it was half (which is pretty generous, it would prob be more like 70% because utilities haven't gone up much since then in our area), so $1500 a month. Differential in cost is 18K, post- tax. Pre-tax income more like 23-24K. That is split between 2 incomes. It sounds like a lot, but in the under 3 years since we bought our house we almost doubled that income difference with raises or new positions, because we are in in-demand fields.
I do feel for people in different fields tho. If I was still in fisheries, financial life would suck a fair bit, but I also may have bought a house in 2016 or 2017 instead of going back to school. There is a lot of random chance in the game of life.