The wife says I can't go alone.

[William Hanson (live2hunt)]

I use a Delorme inreach to alleviate both of my wife's and my concern. It works very well for our purposes but we may add a Sat phone too. I'm concerned more with something happening back home with her or the kids and her needing to reach me. She was concerned with my welfare but the uncertainty of the newness of backcountry hunting has mostly worn off, plus she trusts my hunting partner to look out for me. I would still go alone and she would not like it but I certainly wouldn't take the "I'm not going to be controlled and you can kiss my ass" approach. Wives have just as much right to be concerned over our welfare and unfamiliar circumstances that we may be going into as we do about them.

As far as home sickness, I'm homesick the whole time I'm gone and usually by day 6 I'm pretty ready to see my kids and wife. It's never pulled me out of the wilderness but it's still there, more than I ever thought it would be before I started back country hunting. There's no weakness in it. Even Correy Jacobsen says he doesn't like to be away from home more than 6-7 days at a time.

We all hunt for our own reasons and most certainly causing strife at home and disregarding our spouse's feelings are not one of them. All things considered, I am going hunting but not without making the necessary concessions to make my wife as comfortable with it as possible.

Good luck on finding a partner and if not Delorme is a reasonable alternative.

 

[orionsbrother]

I've had my wife lay down an ultimatum.

I was headed out for a two and a half week "solo" wilderness canoe trip with my dog. I'd be gone for three weeks with the drive. I had meticulously gone over my food repeatedly to pare down weight, calculating how much fish I'd want to eat each day, considering cold meals versus hot, measuring out dog food, scrutinizing everything else as well.

Just before my departure, my wife was stuffing what had to be about twenty pounds more dog food into the top of my food pack. She was concerned that with increased activity, that he'd need more food. "I'm not worried about you. You can take care of yourself." she said. I tried to explain that I'd be the one paddling and he'd be relaxing the majority of the time.

I was given the ultimatum and accompanying open ended threat that I had to take the dog food or else...

So, I think it's kind of quaint WhiskeyMaker's wife wants him back in one piece...but that's coming from a guy who ranks behind the dog...and still does even though the dog's been gone several years now. He was one hell of a dog though.

 

[Poser]

Put it this way: "I can go hunting and you can be my wife OR, I can Go hunting." Anything less and you lose your man card.

 

[AK Troutbum]

Solo, 10 day, Kodiak fly out goat hunt in two months and my wife couldn't be happier. I wonder what that means? She does love mountain goat meat though.


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[Shrek]

Put it this way: "I can go hunting and you can be my wife OR, I can Go hunting." Anything less and you lose your man card.

That's about right but if you're like me your wife would know better than give an ultimatum. But I'm happily divorced so...

 

[Tanya Avery]

that's about right but if you're like me your wife would know better than give an ultimatum. But i'm happily divorced so...

exactly.

 

[Tanya Avery]

Put it this way: "I can go hunting and you can be my wife OR, I can Go hunting." Anything less and you lose your man card.

Oh geez, here we go with the chest beating again

 

[Shrek]

exactly.

Actually yes , exactly. Just once she made a "threat" and with about a one second pause I told her to do just what she threatened and get her chit and get the f--k out. I right then and there ripped my heart out and threw it on the floor but I'll be damned if I'll cower to a threat most any man with an ounce of self respect would do the same. You ask of your partner not tell. That goes both ways of course. I wouldn't tell any wife of mine what to do like a child.

 

[AdamW]

Damn it. This thread has me considering an InReach for this fall now. I've got a Gen2 SPOT, but it is 1-way communication and I'd have to purchase the subscription plan for $150 for the whole year just to use it for a week plus of hunting. If I bought an InReach I'd get 2-way comms in case of emergency back home (my own peace of mind) and be able to do the Freedom plans. No doubt a much more usable unit for another $150. Renting in InReach for 2 weeks looks like it runs $110+. I'd be getting in to my "By the time you figure..." realm really quick.

 

[Tanya Avery]

Actually yes , exactly. Just once she made a "threat" and with about a one second pause I told her to do just what she threatened and get her chit and get the f--k out. I right then and there ripped my heart out and threw it on the floor but I'll be damned if I'll cower to a threat most any man with an ounce of self respect would do the same. You ask of your partner not tell. That goes both ways of course. I wouldn't tell any wife of mine what to do like a child.

I'm sorry that you guys didn't see eye to eye on that. Although, I doubt that was the only issue. Probably the 'straw that broke the camels back'. It sounds like it was for the best, as you said you are 'happily divorced'

 

[tipsntails7]

I would bet half you guys wouldn't talk like this to your own wives (or maybe, more likely, you are single for a reason). Use a little respect. Doesn't sound to me like the OP's wife is being unreasonable in expressing concerns, and it sounds like Whiskey Maker is making an honest attempt to try to alleviate those concerns by finding a partner. Marriage is about working together, and compromise (kudos to you Whiskey Maker, sounds like you have this figured out already).

I hope you find a partner for your hunt. Have you talked to your wife about whether some sort of emergency communication device would make her feel more comfortable about you going alone if you can't find a partner?

I'd say your pretty spot on... No reason to be a dick, it's one thing if your 20 and have been dating for 3 weeks, another thing entirely to be married.


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[Shrek]

I need to say that the title is an issue but the clarified reality is much more reasonable and I'd likely do everything possible to find a partner. I'm Not The complete Ahole I may come off as.

 

[William Hanson (live2hunt)]

Internet chest beating has all the credibility as locker room tales of sexploits in junior high.

 

[Tanya Avery]

I'm not sure what sat phone we have, I will have to check on it, but it is a POS! Getting out on it is challenging, and it drops the call after about 3 min. A quick 10 min. call can take 5 calls. Super frustrating!

 

[Shrek]

Globalstar is what Ryan had last fall and it does leave a lot to be desired.

 

[William Hanson (live2hunt)]

I need to say that the title is an issue but the clarified reality is much more reasonable and I'd likely do everything possible to find a partner. I'm Not The complete Ahole I may come off as.

We all knew underneath the swamp ogre persona you're really just a kitten lol.

 

[Shrek]

Inreach uses Inmarsat which is a much more reliable system.

 

[Tanya Avery]

Globalstar is what Ryan had last fall and it does leave a lot to be desired.

That's what we still have then. I know we will be cancelling it when the contract expires

 

[Shrek]

We all knew underneath the swamp ogre persona you're really just a kitten lol.

The story of my divorce is true and if you had asked me one second before she said what she did I'd have told you we were fine and we would never get divorced. some things in this world are black and white.

 

[Shrek]

That's what we still have then. I know we will be cancelling it when the contract expires

I'm Surprised he hasn't already dumped it. I guess he hasn't needed it all that much over the summer. For all the struggle it did get the messages out... Barely