The wife says I can't go alone.

[5MilesBack]

I would bet half you guys wouldn't talk like this to your own wives (or maybe, more likely, you are single for a reason).

Well, my wife is sitting right here. And I asked her what she would do if the choice was "I go alone" or "she goes with me", and she said "Have fun". My wife has always known where I stand on these issues even before we were married 20 years ago. I'm always going alone.......unless she wants to go too.

My wife knows better than to throw out something like this. She knows I would take it more like "I dare you to go alone". OK.

 

[jpuckett]

I find these comments pretty funny. Here's the deal, I know you all, just like me, fantasize about if only I could do this trip or that trip... But I feel like as a dad and husband these trips wouldn't be nearly as sweet if I didn't have my two girls to come back to. It's about balance. I've been in on quite a few sunrises watching for deer and knowing my wife was unhappy. If you get to that point. Just pack up and go home. I want my legacy to me more than my adventures on the mountain. But also how I involve my family as well.


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[Tanya Avery]

Well, my wife is sitting right here. And I asked her what she would do if the choice was "I go alone" or "she goes with me", and she said "Have fun". My wife has always known where I stand on these issues even before we were married 20 years ago. I'm always going alone.......unless she wants to go too.

My wife knows better than to throw out something like this. She knows I would take it more like "I dare you to go alone". OK.

I don't think the issue was presented as 'you go with me, or I go alone' I think the issue was that the 'wifey doesn't tell me what to do'. Obviously, if you've been married that long you've had to make compromises in her favor too. I think the issue was his wife didn't feel comfortable with him going alone and wanted him to either have means of communication, or have someone with him. If she didn't give a crap, she likely wouldn't have suggested a phone or hunting partner. Obviously not all relationships are the same and you don't have to consult your wife about trips, nor does she care if you are alone. And that's ok, but I don't feel like it's helpful or productive to shame others on this thread by suggesting they don't have balls or control of their wife. Let's move on people. Perhaps some more suggestions about sat. phones to buy?

 

[Jimbo V]

Delorme InReach for sure. Way more trustworthy than some jackleg you met on the internet.

Agree with the InReach, my wife as with any loved ones does and should have concerns. I think the price per month can't be beat for the peace of mind it gives the person holding down the fort back home


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[Jeff Martin]

You guys complain about your wives not wanting you to go hunting, but it could be worse....she could want you to go, often and by yourselves...just sayin

I will say this, in my single days (early 20s), I used to see a lot of hot married women in the bar on opening day of elk season - and they weren't there just to look cute..... Looking back and being happily married, I am like wow !!!

 

[wyo_gasman]

You guys complain about your wives not wanting you to go hunting, but it could be worse....she could want you to go, often and by yourselves...just sayin

Or she could want to go with you.

 

[Tanya Avery]

Lol. That's how it was in the military when the husbands went on training missions too

 

[Tanya Avery]

Or she could want to go with you.

So true!!! Just ask Ryan!

 

[orionsbrother]

You guys complain about your wives not wanting you to go hunting, but it could be worse....she could want you to go, often and by yourselves...just sayin

I think it's nice that whiskeymaker's wife is expressing some, perhaps misplaced, concern for him. He's fortunate in that regard. She aspires to having him return intact. Better than having her smear barbecue sauce on his pack and giving him some honey incense to burn in camp.

 

[dotman]

I will say this, in my single days (early 20s), I used to see a lot of hot married women in the bar on opening day of elk season - and they weren't there just to look cute..... Looking back and being happily married, I am like wow !!!

What were you doing in a bar on opening day?

 

[Jon Boy]

What were you doing in a bar on opening day?

Sounds like he was hunting to me...

 

[5MilesBack]

I think the issue was his wife didn't feel comfortable with him going alone and wanted him to either have means of communication, or have someone with him.

Showing concern vs laying down an ultimatum (as the title does), are two totally different things. Had the title read "my wife is concerned about me going alone", then this would be a totally different thread as you're looking to move it in that direction. But that's not what was presented.

We all like to joke around with these kinds of things, but underneath it all most of it isn't joking and there's usually more to a situation than what's showing on the surface.

 

[Shrek]

Showing concern vs laying down an ultimatum (as the title does), are two totally different things. Had the title read "my wife is concerned about me going alone", then this would be a totally different thread as you're looking to move it in that direction. But that's not what was presented.

We all like to joke around with these kinds of things, but underneath it all most of it isn't joking and there's usually more to a situation than what's showing on the surface.

This ^^^^ ! I've know some guys who's nuts are kept in their wives purses. I have no more respect for them than their wives do.

 

[Cripler]

This ^^^^ ! I've know some guys who's nuts are kept in their wives purses. I have no more respect for them than their wives do.

What's worse then this is when guys will use there wife as an excise that he can't go or needs leaves hunting early.

 

[rayporter]

man am i a lucky cuss.

 

[dotman]

What's worse then this is when guys will use there wife as an excise that he can't go or needs leaves hunting early.

This is unacceptable, had an old hunting buddy do it to me and it was the last we hunted together and really talked. You don't drive 12hrs+ just to get home sick.

 

[WhiskeyMaker]

Whoa guys... I was just looking for a hunting partner to ease my wife's concern. This is my first forum, and I may not have been clear enough to express the situation properly. I admit the title seems like an ultimatum but that is just because I have been hit too many times in the head and didn't think it through.

My wife has been going hunting with me since I got out of the military and she loves it. But as life goes on some things change. She was presented with a chance to coach a high school sports team this fall. We have a hunt set up for 7 days in mid October. I am going to try some early season stuff this year and since she is coaching, she is unable to go with me. We hunt in the Washakie Wilderness, and every time we see lots of bear sign and last year she ended up within 50 yards of a Grizzly while we she was fishing a few hundred yards from camp. It scared her a bit, so naturally she is concerned about me being alone.

I am going to look into the satellite phone, but I also have to come up with the funds for it as well.

As for a hunting partner, who on this forum doesn't want to go hunt more. I will go hunting with someone even when I don't have a tag. There are a couple reasons that I personally would like a partner. I wouldn't mind trying for elk alone, but that is a bunch of work if I get one. Knowing the person I am, if I am going backpacking with other people, I will bust my butt trying to prepare physically. No one wants to be the one to tap out.

So, that is what I got. Just trying to find someone that wants to go to the mountains to ease my wife's concern and to help and/or push me beyond my comfort zone.

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[idelkslayer]

Good to hear that she didn't give you an ultimatum, I hate the double standard that women are allowed to be bossy and control their husband but not the other way around.

My wife has always been worried about me hunting alone, sometimes in grizzly country sometimes just due the distances I travel in the backcountry. The problem is finding a hunting partner that can keep up and can have matching schedules. Unfortunately My best friend and I can't always hunt together so I go alone. My wife's compromise was the Delorme Inreach.

Even with a hunting partner you're probably not going to be with each other at all times. With a hunting partner the only advantage you gain is that there is someone to go for help if you need it, once he finds you. The Delorme fills that function with the added benefit of being able to send a nightly text letting the wife know you made it through the day and you're safe in camp for the night.

 

[Tanya Avery]

Whoa guys... I was just looking for a hunting partner to ease my wife's concern. This is my first forum, and I may not have been clear enough to express the situation properly. I admit the title seems like an ultimatum but that is just because I have been hit too many times in the head and didn't think it through.

My wife has been going hunting with me since I got out of the military and she loves it. But as life goes on some things change. She was presented with a chance to coach a high school sports team this fall. We have a hunt set up for 7 days in mid October. I am going to try some early season stuff this year and since she is coaching, she is unable to go with me. We hunt in the Washakie Wilderness, and every time we see lots of bear sign and last year she ended up within 50 yards of a Grizzly while we she was fishing a few hundred yards from camp. It scared her a bit, so naturally she is concerned about me being alone.

I am going to look into the satellite phone, but I also have to come up with the funds for it as well.

As for a hunting partner, who on this forum doesn't want to go hunt more. I will go hunting with someone even when I don't have a tag. There are a couple reasons that I personally would like a partner. I wouldn't mind trying for elk alone, but that is a bunch of work if I get one. Knowing the person I am, if I am going backpacking with other people, I will bust my butt trying to prepare physically. No one wants to be the one to tap out.

So, that is what I got. Just trying to find someone that wants to go to the mountains to ease my wife's concern and to help and/or push me beyond my comfort zone.

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I suspected the title was in jest. Your wife sounds like a pretty cool lady. What an amazing opportunity that was presented to her! I wish you much luck in getting a hunting partner and sat phone this season!

 

[Murdy]

I made a trip out west alone a couple years ago alone, neither my wife or mom were thrilled, my mom (who is in her 70's) offered to come with -- had to turn her down, lol, but that's when I broke down and got a DeLorme, it made them both happy.