How long have you old timers been married?

My wife tells me that she will be married 30 years on August 4th. She is the best. Beyond accommodating. She told me one time, when the kids were little, that I had been gone 31 days that fall hunting. I asked who was counting. Probably wouldn't advise saying that.
Forty five as of June 1st. Hard to believe it after building us two homes without getting a divorce. I was a builder but she was the architect. lol. Just kept my mouth shut and did the building. Also she puts up with my hunting adventures.
 
One year in July. 2nd wife, first was a disaster. Was single for 27 years between the two wives. My second wife is a delight. Easy going, loves to fish and be outdoors in the quiet, wants me to hunt and fish, started shooting a recurve after going to the range with me. And low maintenance.........
 
Just passed the 43 year mark on June 26th. 2 great kids, 4 wonderful grandkids (9, 6, 1.5 and 2 months). Lots of ups and downs, but we hung in there through it all.
 
44 years here and would t change a thing. My dad told me as a kid “ There ain’t nothing better that being married to the “right” one and ain’t nothing worse than being married to the wrong one one so choose wisely”. My best advice to you young guys is that the best way to get to know your wife’s true nature is to get to know her parents ( if they’re still around). You can figure out what kind of person/wife she’ll be by seeing how she was “raised”. Sort of the old school approach for those of us who grew up in the 60s and 70s. All the best to everyone and Merry Christmas to you.
OMG YESS!! And REALLY.. REEEALLY... scrutinize with a critical eye what you can observe about how her parents interact with one another!!! I can NOT stress this enough!

They were her modeling of acceptable behaviour for decades before YOU came along.

One example of something SPECIFIC to look at for? -> When the parents are interacting, if the Mom gets testy or upset about something the Dad said... does she do things like reach out to smack the guy on his shoulder or something like that?

If the Mom does? YOU need to ABORT MISSION and say C-YA... Wouldn't wanna Be Ya.

Because this woman, doesn't understand that line which should NOT be crossed unless for good, serious, reasons. Which means that when that woman you're considering gets upset? She's gonna do all that crazy isht of all getting up in a man's face like the way some other DUDE would. And NO MAN.. should EVER have to deal with THAT isht. It GREATLY puts you at RISK of extremely unfair legal repercussions.

And if she was EVER... willing to step up to you romantically (or somebody else) when that other party were technically still partnered-up? As much as you may be smitten... you gotta bounce! And kick her to da curb quick. As she'd be likely to then leave you the moment a bigger-better-deal comes along.
 
I call these "we are all creatures of our environment" and the "climber" mentality. Before I met my wife, I had created a "prospect list questionnaire". It asked all the questions you really should know before you get serious about a relationship. Examples: family mental history, parents marital status, number of siblings and a bunch of others. I don't know what I did with it. Showed it to my wife once. She thought it was a great idea.
 
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