This right hereA lot of it’s just where you are in life too. As a lot of guys get into their late 30’s and 40’s+ they have a lot more disposable income. Dropping 5-10k on a hunt is a lot different for them than if they were in their 20’a still climbing the career ladder.
Is it selfish? Maybe, but at the same time my wife knows it makes me happy and likes to do things for me and I would do the same thing for her talents/hobby’s/interests. Do your homework, talk to your spouse, set a goal, and start setting some money aside each month until it becomes a reality.
Also, I wouldn't get too hung up the DIY vs. guided debate. Here's the reality... As a NR, if a guided hunt with higher probability for success costs me $5-6k once every few years, that's essentially the same cost as unsuccessful DIY hunts every year. It's also less wear and tear on your vehicle and the relationship with your wife.
If you can find a guided shoulder season hunt for a cow elk (they are out there) that doesn't cost you points you're accumulating for a BOAL hunt, and you can get into it for less than say $5k all-in, it may be worth it.
Another option is to set a budget, and once you've achieved the savings, start applying to every unit you've ever wanted to hunt in the random. As long as you can live with the non-refundable portion of these applications, you're chances of being drawn are stil better than had you never applied at all.
