Traditional vs Elope

[dreadi]

Neither. Spent about $2,800 with dinner, not including rings.

 

[Howard94]

Those that have gotten married, if you could do it all over again would you do a traditional wedding or Elope?

Elope! Go somewhere fun. Enjoy your time with you and your wife without distractions. The wedding should only be about you and your wife. A traditional wedding won’t give you that. Inevitably there’s personalities that need to be managed, people will want to cause a scene/make it about them…….it always happens. If I had to do it again I would take my closest family and friends and have a destination wedding. You can always have some sort of party when you get back to celebrate but tbh the traditional wedding and reception is almost always more for your guests than it is you and your wife.

 

[Wrench]

My wife and I got married by a friend of mine without a reception nor any guests.

Some of my friends spent thousands and thousands on the wedding and more on the honeymoon. We spent about $18 on everything. 15 years later our house and cars are paid off and my friends who spent the most on the wedding are still buried in debt.

Pay attention to the expectations to make sure you can afford to be married.

 

[Halky010]

I told my partner over and over again we should just go an elope. But he wants to share it with family and friends, so I agreed to have the whole big shindig. Now I have gotten all excited about it now once I have started planning. I wouldn't mind either to be honest. I'll tell you next year if I regret it haha!

 

[cjdewese]

I would say whatever you can afford comfortably. We did a small ceremony with friends and family at my dads house. We had a great time and a cool wedding 10 years ago. A lot of people have said it was their favorite wedding experience.

With that being said it only cost us like a grand out of pocket. If you have to go into debt don't do it that way.

If her parents have been saving for this, talk to them and see if you could have 1/2 of anything left. My brothers wife's parents had put away $ for the wedding and they were able to do this and it worked out well.

 

[Brucebarker024]

Those that have gotten married, if you could do it all over again would you do a traditional wedding or Elope?

Elope, way more relaxed, people act upset in the beginning but they just end up happy for you in the end. My wife and I got married with a traditional wedding and it was great but to do it again we would elope.

PS: if you need a kickass elopement photographer I married one

 

[Jmort1754]

Elope, way more relaxed, people act upset in the beginning but they just end up happy for you in the end. My wife and I got married with a traditional wedding and it was great but to do it again we would elope.

PS: if you need a kickass elopement photographer I married one

Oh yeah? For what locations does she do?

 

[Brucebarker024]

Oh yeah? For what locations does she do?

Just about anywhere. For example she was in Italy, Mexico, Hawaii, and Montana this year.

She does traditional weddings and elopements. Based out of Oregon.

https://www.hannabarkerphoto.com/

 

[Ryan Rothhaar]

We went to Walmart, bought rings, then went to the justice of the peace down the road. Told everyone about it after. She has a little bit better ring now and I still have my Walmart 10k now, 24 years later. Zero regrets.

R

 

[M1SF1T]

We did it in my Aunt's backyard.

Good music, good food, lots of beverages, close family and friends ended up about 100 people and it was s great party.

Keep it SIMPLE, save your money. We spent a few thousand dollars and don't regret anything. That's how I would do it if I did it again.

 

[doc holiday13]

My one and only wedding was very non trad. Order of events

-Dinner meal without assignedseats
-Self written vows
-"Receiving" line where my wife and I greeted people and served pie(we had 20ish pies ofdifferent type)
- dancing with a caller

We had about 100 people and everyone still says our wedding wasthe most fun wedding they've ever been to

 

[Stubborn_bowhunter]

Eloping this year. We came to the conclusion that we don't want to spend our time worrying about everyone else having a good time.