Traditional vs Elope

[Brontosaurus]

I just got married this year and was in the same boat. I was 23 and my wife was 24. IMHO nothing can replace a good traditional wedding. It's such a special day that's worth waiting for.

Me and my wife contemplated eloping many times. But taking the time to do it right is WORTH IT. There's something terribly special about getting to see your wife walk down the aisle. If your being intentional about making a commitment to each other then be just that. Be intentional and sincere. You will look back on that day almost every day of your life whether you choose to go traditional or elope. I'm a sucker for good memories (it's why I hunt) so that's why i went for a trad wedding.

All that said, it's your guys day. Dont let anyone push you around and try and dictate how your day should go. And let me tell you they will try. Make hard calls and let your decisions be the final word. Yeah some people will get offended. But if they can't be your friend/relative without controlling your wedding then they're not worth keeping around. Might sound harsh but it's the truth.

 

[Marble]

I did both. Wife and I got married in secret to save $700 monthly in insurance costs. Had a public wedding a year later.

If my kids were not little at the time, I probably would have just eloped and went on a honeymoon. But the wedding was also a celebration of me surviving a pretty gnarly bout of cancer.

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[Phaseolus]

We got married in a Western Colorado mountain meadow. Had hamburgers and hotdogs and a keg of beer. Later, during the winter since we were in agriculture and couldn’t leave during the growing season, we spent a month in New Zealand.

 

[CorbLand]

Got married 6 years ago and did a traditional wedding. All in all, right around 1500 if I remember correctly for the entire thing. We didn’t do any of it to impress anyone and I made that very clear from the get go. Had to tell my MIL a few times whose wedding it was but it went smooth.

A few people made comments about how small our wedding was but **** them. One is divorced and the other one couldn’t put two pennys together if you gave him three.

Brother in law is getting married next year and he asked me what I would do. I told him small wedding with a small lunch after. Go on a honeymoon and come back and do an open house.

I think there is a correlation between the amount a wedding costs and the divorce rate. Its not inverse either.

Wedding is more for the girl so you will end up doing what she wants. If she is down to elope, do it.

 

[NMJM]

Like everything else in our society weddings have become totally insane. People spend crazy amounts of money on what amounts to a very stressful day so a bride can play princess for the day. So many other better ways to spend money. But in the end its your money (or debt) spend it however you like.

 

[Traveler]

Married traditional and would do it again. We have a commitment reinforced by tradition. Easy come easy go.