I have 2 3-lug actions from a popular custom action maker, but have north of 500 rounds on them, one lug has all the dlc gone, the other a small amount, the other looks new. Both actions are this way. I've had the action inspected, measured, by a qualified machinest, as well as measuring them with my own depth gauges. The action is square, but the lugs on the bolt are not, idk if the holding fixture wasn't totally solid during machining or what. Both these actions show psi sooner than the cartridge/barrel length should. These are typically observed psi signs: bolt lift, case head swipe, ejector marks. With one lug taking the majority the load, that lugs flexing till lug #2 starts supporting, this allows the case to elongate over the static headspace spec, which is causing these signs, my theory and a few smith's as well. I have spoken with the action manufacturer, and even sent the actions back with very little support and no remedy offered. I've just axed them off a list Id ever use again, unfortunately I cannot sell these rifles or action knowing the issue is there, wouldn't be right. They could be fixed by a quality machinest when a re-barrel happens, as there will be a headspace change.
I don't feel that there are any safety issues here, as long as chamber pressures arent crazy. When using older style saami cartridges, it can cause some cartridge to chamber misalignment. These cartridges had cone style freebores, they basically start very large and taper down at quicker rates than modern chambers, lot more room for angles to start stacking up. These rifles with some tinkering still usually shoot well enough. As I previously stated, bedding and a free float barrel, plus quality ammo, 1-1.5 moa should be attainable in most rifle systems if using bullets supported by the barrel twist.
Lapping is going to smoothen the lugs and polish them, but lapping isn't likely going to remove enough material to actually true them up if there is much more than very minor inconsistent contact. This will require some, or a lot machining, and doing this is going to change headspace since it'll likely move the lug abutments back in the action, and shorten the bolt lugs up a bit, so we're talking a thou or two minimum, in extreme cases, much more. This is why most people accurize/blueprint(fancy name of truing) upon the event of a new barrel install. The tenon threads great slightly oversized, and aligned straight to the new trued lug abutments that interfaces with a bolt that has the rear side of lugs trued to the bolt face. This should have everything in as close of alignment possible, but you're stacking 3 machining processes atop one another, so there is going to be tolerances in there, as things rarely ever come out 0.00000 perfectly straight.