I'll jump in....
Hit 13 years sober in March. Wenn I got sober....I wasn't drinking every day, never an arrest for anything alcohol related, no DWIs, no kid or wife beating, no jobs lost due to drinking, no one "negatively effected" by my drinking......but I got into one little accident and kicked out of and PNG'd from a country across the pond. Went to rehab at the behest of uncle Sam and realized, after talking to a few folks that had a LOT of sobriety....that I was a lucky one and all of those "nevers" were just waiting to happen. I had a whole bunch of "not yets" just waiting in the wings. I had a very high bottom, took advantage of it, and never looked back.
I've had buddies ask if I thought they had a problem... My answer is always the same. Whether you're an alcoholic isn't for me to diagnose...because I can't....BUT....if your asking me is a serious question....well, that might be a clue.....go to a meeting, sit, and listen. If you do decide stop....do it for yourself, not your job, wife, kids, parents....etc.
There are plenty of people I know who have a drink every day....cocktail or wine with dinner....and it doesn't mean they are an alcoholic. Some people can handle it...some can until they can't....everyone is different. First step is the easiest to answer.... Has alcohol made your life unmanageable? If you're questioning a potential problem...start with that.
No, AA isn't the end all be all. I know many who have gotten successfully sober in other ways. I do, however, recommend people start there. Find a meeting you like, as all are different. Some are like a bunch of cheerleaders who love hugs and high fives.....others are more old school. I preferred the old school meetings....but it's a good start to get a sponsor and have someone to hold you accountable.
Listen to Joe and Charlie....old school AA guys who are both dead now. They're pretty old school BB based and a good listen. Either way....good luck to anyone struggling.....it can suck for sure but the rewards can be endless.
Wait....Has hunting made my life unmanageable? Shit....now I gotta find a Hunters Anonymous meeting....