I have had 6 different pairs over the years - I have the hardest time with cheap grips - kind of a silly thing to make decisions on, and probably mostly a warm weather thing when used without gloves. The second thing is how easy the pole is to point where you want it. Heavy or clunky poles just require a little more effort. I’d buy cheap poles if they were light enough and felt good in the hand.
Big guys probably need bigger heavier poles, and girls with girlie arms seem to like the lightest poles available. Carbon fiber tubes are so inexpensive now, I wouldn’t be surprised if we all go that route, just like it has taken over tripods.
The extra short poles seem like a good idea until going down a steep slope with a lot of weight and they are too short for maximum benefit,
The best way to sell someone on the high dollar poles is to be backpacking up a rocky trail for a few hours, trade poles for a few hours, and trade back.