Empty Nester Blues

[Customweld]

The youngest daughter left for Texas this morning. That's how it's supposed to work, if you did it right. Boy, it sure leaves you with a heavy heart though.

 

[87TT]

Oldest daughter lived with her mother and got married at 18. Younger daughter rented a house and moved out after high school at 18. My son the youngest, well he had a job and was not saving any so i told him when he graduated high school the rent started. This was in 96. I told him $150 a month for his room and board. He said no way and moved out. He came back in a couple of months and asked if he could take the deal. After he put the cash in my hand he moved back for a couple of months until he and a friend got a small house to rent. He hated me at the time but has thanked me numerous times since.
Bottom line is if you did your job they will be fine and thank you later. Good luck Dad.

 

[survivalistd]

My daughter moved to Lake Oswego Oregon few years ago got married. Can't blame her leaving So Cal. Boys are still local and we spend a lot of time together. All have great careers and happy. Agreed that's all we can ask for.

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[CorbLand]

I would be pretty bummed if my kid willingly moved to Texas too.

 

[Rob5589]

Daughter just turned 17 and my wife is already feeling it.

 

[ODB]

Daughter just turned 17 and my wife is already feeling it.

Same here. It’s about this time you start looking back and playing the “shoulda” torture.

It’s a hell of a thing to work so hard to make yourself obsolete (in a manner).

 

[SloppyJ]

I have a son that's 6 and one on the way that's due any minute. I absolutely love the stage he's in now and I know that although it seems like I have a bunch of time, it will be here tomorrow. Just wanted to say thanks for making the post. It's great to keep things in perspective.

 

[Customweld]

I would be pretty bummed if my kid willingly moved to Texas too.

LOL! yeah, that part is pretty disappointing! Her oldest sister is in El Paso. She is going to stay with them a while and then transfer down to Texas A and M .

 

[Customweld]

Same here. It’s about this time you start looking back and playing the “shoulda” torture.

It’s a hell of a thing to work so hard to make yourself obsolete (in a manner).

It definitely is hitting momma hard. The last baby. It's pretty easy to sit back and think about how you should have done things. I think we all make our decisions at the time based on the knowledge that we had. Hopefully we all did ok.

 

[87TT]

Your killing me. First Texas and now El Paso.

 

[Fatcamp]

It definitely is hitting momma hard. The last baby. It's pretty easy to sit back and think about how you should have done things. I think we all make our decisions at the time based on the knowledge that we had. Hopefully we all did ok.

I work with a woman who has taken her youngest leaving very hard. I don't know that she had interests other than building wealth and raising kids, and now that those are realized she is lost.

We have 2/5 still at home. Time is going by quickly though, and it won't be long before these are gone too.

 

[Htm84]

Man. If my kid moved to Texas I’d be pretty devastated too. Thoughts and prayers

 

[EastHumboldt]

I was born in El Paso. First thing I did was get the hell outta there!

I only had one kid and it was hard when he left home, but I’m blessed that he’s back in the neighbhood and now I have two grandkids. The passages of life make you feel older all the time. I didn’t feel old when I turned 30, but I sure did when my kid turned 30…

 

[CorbLand]

I didn’t feel old when I turned 30, but I sure did when my kid turned 30…

I woke up at 4 in the morning on the day of my 30th birthday to pee. I knew it was all down hill from there.

 

[Yoder]

I would be soooo devastated if my lazy step son who contributes nothing moved out. I can only imagine the tears as I setup my reloading equipment in his empty bedroom. I'm too upset now, I can't type anymore.

 

[Ferrulewax]

On the other side of this, recently moved out (now 2 years ago) and it's odd not seeing my parents every day. My dad is my best friend so it took some adjusting not talking hunting and fishing on a daily basis, although I still try (to my wife's dismay). Luckily my wife and I live close and I get to see them frequently, but it's just not the same. Kind of like the friend vs room mate thing (if they are a good room mate). It's hard to ever be a close to someone as you are when you live together. That being said all family dynamics are very different.

 

[mooretitan]

I have 5. Oldest are 16 and I really don’t think I am going to be all that sad when they go. I am sure there will be some worry about how they are doing but between 18-22 it’s time for them to move on and for me to get my time back. Love them and try my best to do right by them but not sure I will be all that sad when this part of my life is over. Wife on the other hand might take it a little different

 

[Dos Perros]

My boy turns 9 this September and my wife is all wrapped up in the fact that his time with us is nearly half over.

I heard a stat that by the time a child is 12 you have already spent 90% of the time that you will ever spend with them, and that by the time they're 18 it's 99%. That's gotdamned depressing.

 

[Yoder]

My boy turns 9 this September and my wife is all wrapped up in the fact that his time with us is nearly half over.

I heard a stat that by the time a child is 12 you have already spent 90% of the time that you will ever spend with them, and that by the time they're 18 it's 99%. That's gotdamned depressing.

Most kids stay at home until they are 25. You got plenty of time.

 

[stanginthe11s]

funny, when my son started high school I started planning what to do with the empty room lol. of course, I didn't know it would be another 11 years before he actually left. but I will say, no that hes gone I do miss having someone to weed wack lol