Am I out of line?

[AdvntrSeekr]

On the day my son was born, my wife had some complications and I had spent the whole night and most of the day in the hospital with her. She was heavily medicated and sleeping. The property I turkey hunted was almost directly across the street from the hospital. When she was awoke for a little while, I told her I was going, (only about an hour and a half of daylight left) An hour later I had a good tom down. She was medicated pretty heavy, but chuckled when I told her. I wouldn't necessarily advise following that lead, but I wouldn't think that one day isn't a huge deal. However, every relationship and husband/wife dynamic is different, and if it causes problems on the your home front, I would maybe skip out this year. Another thought is wait until the time comes and after the baby is born before bringing it up again. Lots of times a woman can change their mind after time has passed and they see everything will be alright, but with the first one I am sure there is a lot of anxiousness and unknowns for her. After the baby comes, things have settled down, and she and the baby are into a routine, she might mot be as opposed to you taking a day out.

Regardless, Congrats on the baby!!! Hope everything goes smoothly for you guys!

 

[Pony Soldier]

I was married in Sept. Our honeymoon was hunting elk. Our kids were born around the end of February. Plan accordingly !

 

[doc holiday13]

Even though this is an old thread, I don't think OP is out of line.. Turkey hunting will take him away from the house for what.... 5 hours? maybe 8?

Does the wife not expect you to go to work now that she has a kid? For work you're gone 5ish days a week for 10hours at a shot generally.. She needs to take some herbals and let the hormones wear off.

I went turkey hunting 3 days after my wife had our first child. Killed the 2nd biggest turkey yet. You will need to do your part and give her a break when possible. Its just not possible with a newborn to be away from momma for 10 hours.

 

[Bulldawg]

Fun thread to read through, and like a lot, interested to see what the result was, 4 years ago lol.

Each response in this thread should have had a requirement before posting an opinion:
Are you married, do you have kids, are you divorced lol.

Reading some guys say "I'm not married or have kids but you should put your foot down" is pretty funny. I'm assuming those were 22-25 year olds saying something like that, at least I hope.

Then there were those saying what they would do, and then slide in at the end, they were also divorced lol.

It was pretty easy to spot in this thread those of you who were either had kids or not, or were happily married or not haha.

So, This advice is obviously not for the OP, but since this is a resurfaced topic, and somebody might one day find this thread pertinent to their life. Don't take parenting/marriage advice from single/divorced dudes first off lol. In this circumstance, I would be shocked if you couldn't get away for a day one month after your kid is born, but there can be complications so don't make plans that can't be canceled. The best advice I read in here was if you find yourself in this situation, keep your thoughts to yourself, you were so early in the stage of your wife being pregnant that it wasn't necessary to pick a fight then. If the kid is healthy and all good, going hunting for a day 1 month after shouldn't be an issue. But you also can't be a deadbeat all the other days you are home as well.


I think if there is anything you should take from this thread (because there has been a lot of good and bad advice given):

Don't take financial advice from people that are broke
Don't take marriage advice from people that are divorced
Don't take parenting advice from a 22 year old single dude haha

 

[Predator_SD]

Family first hunting second. Just the way it is man. I been “Dad” for almost 12 years now and it’s the best thing that ever happened to me. And i’ve killed some nice ass deer!

 

[ScreamingPotato]

It was pretty easy to spot in this thread those of you who were either had kids or not, or were happily married or not haha.

Or: It was pretty easy to spot in this thread those of you who chose their spouse wisely and those who didn't.

Me: Married 29 years ago, three grown kids, still married, chose wife wisely. I'll go hunt and fish whenever and she mainly gets jealous if she has to work. I'm still not doing it for a damn turkey though.

edit: There is some great wisdom in this thread. I saw a lot of guys say to go hunting, but circle back and be sure to do your duties while she gets some time off as well. If you're not selfish it'll work out.

 

[fmyth]

After our second child was born I let my wife know that I'd be hunting deer come November. Exactly 18 years later I made my last child support payment and could finally afford that November deer hunting trip. Good luck to you.