A lighter note.

[Yoteassasin]

As long as the check she writes out of my account don’t bounce I’m sure nothing I could do hunting wise would bother her

 

[Mike D Texas]

i make sure my families expenses are taken care of and budget responsibly for any major purchase. My wife does the same thing. Because we are both adults.
You shouldn't have to ask permission or hide purchases from a spouse

This is the correct answer.


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[butcherboy]

We set up a separate savings account.
I feed the account all year long. Auto deposit after each paycheck.
She has one for her hobbies too.
Mine is specifically for shooting/hunting purchases.
Keeps the financial heartburn of large purchases down since we both know that it won’t be coming from the main account.

This is the same thing my wife and I do. I have a fund I feed into every month. It covers all tags and hunting equipment plus tags and equipment/clothes etc for my kids as well. She has one for her and uses it for extra clothes she wants and sports equipment for the kids. We have been using our tax returns to build and finish our basement.

 

[COJoe]

I've related purchases to some kind of safety issue. I am going to have to purchase a new..... because my old, used one is failing so that would be dangerous if it fails while I'm miles from my vehicle. I don't buy unless it really is a necessity. My wife appreciates honesty and financial maturity.
Oh, and a plane ticket to Hawaii with her sister tends to help!

 

[tater]

My attitude has always been if i have to keep a secret of any kind from my wife, i'm doin' something i shouldn't.
Whether that's lunch with a female colleague or new gear, she knows about it.

Mutual respect and support with clear communication really shouldn't be that hard.

Having said that, i have been subject to the odd "gear audit" and questions of why i have "so much of *insert gear type here*" have been asked.

 

[JK47]

The last 2 guns I bought I said were for her. New bow so I could hand down my old one to her.

 

[Hunt eat repeat]

I laid the groundwork very early in our relationship that hunting and taxidermy were VERY important to me. My identity really.
Now it’s just how things are
I’m going to spend most of my money on gear and whatever else I can’t live without.

 

[Silver Wings]

I’ve got a pretty ideal setup, as my wife has never taken an interest in our finances. Everytime I walk in with a new gun and she asks if that’s new, I just reply…what???, this old thing?

 

[wcasey755]

I’ve got a pretty ideal setup, as my wife has never taken an interest in our finances. Everytime I walk in with a new gun and she asks if that’s new, I just reply…what???, this old thing?

I need to try that one!

 

[Drenalin]

I’ve been divorced three times…….

Damn dude…I didn’t go gay, but I think my first divorce put me off women entirely

 

[peterk123]

I just got my wife into hunting. Problem solved.

 

[wcasey755]

I just got my wife into hunting. Problem solved.

I think getting my wife into it did the opposite. Because she just sits in a blind on our property and shoots deer. So I always get “I don’t understand why you need (insert gear here). I kill one every year in my scrubs after I get off work”. Haha.

 

[Wrench]

Buy a machine shop....all the "materials" are for "investment", some for retail.....some for knowledge. Can't be a gunsmith without patients. Can't weld on jet boats without welders and boats....Can't be an excavation contractor without equipment. It's all about trying to diversify the skill base.

 

[Ucsdryder]

Damn dude…I didn’t go gay, but I think my first divorce put me off women entirely

Do you push back?

 

[Rich M]

I usually buy something after getting a work bonus, and after talking about it for a month or more. We don't do a lot of impulsive purchases, typically planned stuff.

Beyond retirement investing, most of the money that would go for vacations (w normal people) has been put into buying land and we are building a camp/retirement place.

 

[Burnsie]

My wife of 35 years and I agreed long ago to forgo giving each other gifts at Christmas - its more for the kids. It seemed ridiculous for each of us to be hitting each other up for gift ideas before the holiday so we could both go out and and buy said item from our joint bank account and them present to each other. "Honey - how about when I find something I want/need throughout the year, I just go buy it - you do the same" We do nothing for Valentines Day, Mother/Fathers Day...etc. either.

 

[OsoMountain]

Damn dude…I didn’t go gay, but I think my first divorce put me off women entirely

 

[Pharmseller]

Damn dude…I didn’t go gay, but I think my first divorce put me off women entirely

“First divorce” leads me to believe there might be others.