Get the nitrided version if getting 21st century. Carbide is the way to go but those options are either dwindling or becoming very expensive.
I lube with a little bit of imperial on the rim, very little, then tumble it off.
On my amp annealed brass, sized minimally, usually .004 under, my expander mandrels (.001 under) yield too little neck tension. Turning mandrels (.002 under) usually yield .0025 tension.
This is all relative, as is what ever you read because depending how you anneal, your neck thickness and your sizing die you could end up with different results. On a normal fl sizing die, it usually squeezes the piss out of the necks. You could likely use a mandrel .001 under bullet diameter and end up where you want to be. Squeezing the brass so much followed by expanding also leaves you with a lot of work placed on it, usually ending up in neck tension variation.
Does all this matter? I don’t know. I have moved to SAC dies and size the neck .004 under, and expand with a mandrel .002 under bullet diameter. This leaves me with an average .025 neck tension.