Where to move?

[cjdewese]

If your wife can stay at home with your children until they start Kindergarten, do all you can to make it happen. Can’t put a price tag on it. Too many people putting $$ over parenting and you can see it in society. I’d not change a thing with this and our two kiddos. I hear it all the time about kids putting aging parents in nursing homes for others to care for when their parents did the same to them as babies in a daycare. (Off soapbox)

Family rearing and opportunities would weigh heavy on my decision on where to live.

Am fortunate enough to make this work and I feel like it's been the single most important thing I have given my son so far.

 

[CMF]

I personally would never want to be in a situation where my wife wasn’t working and leaving 100k +/year on the table just so she can play with babies while I worked.

I'm the opposite.
My wife worked for several years including the baby years, but decided to stay home and homeschool our dyslexic youngest when he was around 7. Since she quit, I have no regrets. I only regret her not staying home sooner.

The Gulf Coast is nice if you're already considering a southeast state. More jobs than areas away from the coast except in bigger cities. The cost of living isn't bad. You have saltwater fishing. The downside is hurricanes.

 

[el_jefe_pescado]

Measure twice and cut once. Everywhere is expensive right now. A place may be quantifiably more "affordable" but determining whether that same place will be a cultural/community fit is much more difficult to do. In my experience, a lack of community will trigger a move faster than anything else.

 

[Goatpacker]

I moved from California 10 years ago and now live in Northern Idaho however, it’s to crowded now, stupid people have moved in and the snow is getting old. I’m considering leaving but not sure where too.
I love Idaho but, the new folks moving here are rude and pansies…I get flipped off several times a month by some idiot that’s in a hurry…
I’m thinking it’s time to pack up but everywhere is to expensive to afford what I have here…