Ok I will try to answer these best I can. I am mostly going to be out the next two weeks, so if I am slow on follow ups please forgive.
Both SilPoly and SilNylon have a lot of variations. I will use for comparison our Silnylon , and the MTN Sil from Ripstop since it has a similar coating as ours and SilPoly from Ripstop.
Regarding packability, most of the time a pure Silicone coated fabric will be better at packing. However , the 1.1 ounce Silpoly from ripstop is a 20 denier fabric not a 30 denier like ours, thus you may get a bit better packing.
Sil Poly means polyester vs nylon is some sort of nylon base ( Nylon 6, 6.6 etc) . In general, nylon is stronger, with better long term durability while polyester has less stretch, better UV resistance, and absorbs less water. These are however moving targets as in tents color and construction have a lot to do with it. Our muted colors do far better over long term UV exposure than bright nylon colors (As an example).
Now the Sil Poly does stretch, maybe not as much as a Sil Nylon, but i think it depends on the Nylon. In comparison to ours, I don't see a noticeable difference and it mostly about construction.
Now in comparison to Sil Pu 4000 the SilPU 4000 is a good coating with good longevity. Likely it will pack a bit larger due to the PU and likely it will have less stretch and likely it will tear and propagate tears easier.
In general - Nylon is stronger and silicone coatings add strength as well. PU coatings reduce strength and stretch, and Polyester has less stretch and strength.
It is important to note, that even within styles of fabrics there are large differences.
In our comparison, the shelters we have built with them have been good, but I believe the ones built with our Cordura SilNylon are a bit better performance.