I stumbled across this while taking a break from studying and felt led to make a post. My dad died the 15th of this month, he was 65 years old. So I lost my father at 35 years old, it sucks. The 29th will mark 30 days with no alcohol for me. My wife and I both drank, I drank beer and she drank either wine or seltzers. I quit drinking hard liquor about a year ago because I knew I liked it too much. I wouldn't have just one drink, it would be 4 or 5 mixed drinks that the more I drank the darker they would get. I had mentioned to my wife I wanted to stop drinking several times and she always said, "Let's do it." I got hammered drunk on the 28th and told my wife that night I was done drinking after that night. I bought a 30 pack of Natural Light and drank well over 20 throughout the day just working in the yard and piddling around. I had gotten to when I was off work, I would go through a 15 pack a day. I have gained weight and stopped running and exercising as much, who the hell wants to run when their halfway hung over?? I got drunk for the first time when I was 16 years old and since I turned 21 I've drank beer at least 2 to 3 days a week for the majority of that time.
My dad was an alcoholic, that is what led to his death. Pancreatitis multiple times, liver failure, a magnitude of GI issues etc. Several DUI's over the years and just absent as a father emotionally due to the drinking. We made peace on this before his death, but it sucked when we were younger. It got to the point my mom told him years ago that hey you have to stop drinking a fifth of liquor a day, so he started drinking beer. But he was also drinking vodka outside in the shed or in the truck between beers. He stopped drinking for 8 years or so before his death but RX drugs and weed were a problem then. What I'm getting at here is alcoholism and substance abuse run in my family heavily. Paternal grandfather, both aunts and my dad all struggled/struggle with it. I don't want to continue the trend.
I woke up on September 29th and told my wife at breakfast I am done drinking. Just done. Made up my mind that I was done drinking alcohol. I have had NA beer a few times while we grilled out one weekend but otherwise, I'm just done. I don't want our kids to see me like I saw my dad fall down drunk so many times or not remembering shit from the night before and wondering why my wife was mad or the kids seem distant. My wife has made it easy for me as well because she also hasn't had anything to drink since that same day. It is much easier with her not drinking as well. My friend group is mostly drinkers and they've noticed and 1 has asked and I told him why. He asked if it makes me uncomfortable with him drinking beer around me and absolutely it does not. I will not push my beliefs on anyone else; you do you boo boo!
I type all of this to say guys and girls great freaking job not drinking! I am proud of you and proud for you! If anyone needs to talk shoot me a PM and I'll send you my cell number, I am far from a therapist, and my friends say I speak the hard truths when they're not wanted but I will talk to you and tell you I love you at the end of the conversation! Keep up the good work and don't quit quitting.