As a family doctor in a rural area (meaning very few specialists available to my patients without a lot of extra effort), I have so many thoughts upon reading this thread.
First, to the OP, I have to say I’m sorry you had such a poor experience. I agree with others, find a better doctor. At a minimum you should have heard your options for treating high cholesterol and had some agency in the decision on how to proceed. Like the quote above, the decision to start medicine should be based on good evidence. Early on I used this same calculator (ASCVD risk calculator for those wondering) for every patient I saw with high cholesterol. Now, a few years into practice, I always reference that calculator in my discussion and offer to go through it with the patient if they'd like to see it or if I’m unsure what the results will be. Otherwise, if I feel confident enough in what the answer will be based on their numbers/risk factors, then I will just tell them my recommendation and why.
Being a primary care doctor in the U.S. is becoming a very tall order. I still love my job and care a great deal for my patients, but the systems that I work within make that harder to maintain every day. Many of the medical decisions I make are determined by what treatments will or won’t be covered by insurance. As others have said, very few patients will follow my advice no matter how much extra training I’ve sought out to become more effective in educating people on healthy lifestyle choices. There is constant pressure to see more patients for shorter visit times. The amount of paperwork and administrative tasks I do amount to 1-2 hours every day after I finish clinic, the majority of which are completed to ensure my patients will get the things they need paid for by insurance. If I choose not to do that paperwork in a timely manner, the patient pays the price.
I realize much of what I wrote above sounds like a complaint and to a degree, it is. However my complaints rarely revolve around the patients I see or the organization I work for. The most challenging part of working in primary care is all the systems that don’t allow us to practice medicine in a way that we or our patients enjoy. For perspective, this year (2025), over 800 training spots in family medicine went unfilled, which is the largest number in history (though this is possibly skewed as we also have increased training spots for FM over time). I think this really speaks to how little incentive there is to go into primary care right now.
To be honest, I agree with many who say that healthcare needs a reset. It feels as though we’re at a tipping point where health insurance has developed a monopoly on the entire US healthcare system and they get to call all the shots. Due to the insanely high costs, very few can afford to go outside the insurance system for major medical needs, procedures or surgeries, though that can be a nice option for primary care. Despite that, some insurances (looking at you United Healthcare) have denial rates that approach 90%, meaning less than 10% of requests are actually paid for by insurance. I have cared for many patients with this experience and their choices are to pay the bill or take it to court and likely spend even more in legal fees.
I want to again say that I love my job and it feels like a blessing every day that I get to do this work. Yet despite that passion, the system has become so challenging to work within, even I have days where I consider another career just to get out of it.
There are lots of great doctors out there and if you look hard enough, I’m sure you’ll find one. That said, I fear the current system is going to gradually make that a rarer occurrence with each passing year until we see some major reform.
One final thought for those advocating lifestyle changes vs medications - I 100% agree with you but the vast majority of my patients don’t see it that way. I legitimately had a visit last week where a patient was mad his insurance wouldn’t cover ozempic for weight loss and he asked me if I could help him understand what foods to eat so he could “temporarily develop diabetes” in order to get the ozempic covered. He actually got angry with me when I suggested he focus on a healthy lifestyle and be grateful he doesn’t have diabetes and therefore doesn’t need mediation like ozempic to treat it. I have not seen him back since then and I doubt that I will.