Recoil is subjective for everyone. What one thinks is easy to shoot, another may think is a killer. The FACT is, that lower recoil equals better shooting. That can't be disputed. .350 ammo is cheaper, easier to find at this point, with a much better selection, which means more shooting.Good Lord, the right 45-70 is a pussycat. Don't give up on effectiveness for basically a 30-30 punk rifle.
1895 gbl is the answer. Heavier factory laminate furniture and factory Pachmeyr recoil pad. 350L is a decent kids and small lady's rifle.
As for the kids and lady's comment..... Really? According to some folks, that 45/70 you're shooting is a good kids and lady's gun too. It's really a stupid statement.
I never said the Marlin was a bad rifle or that the 45/70 wasn't a good round.