Keeping the wife happy while hunting

[BAKPAKR]

Married the wrong Woman then.

I can be difficult to live with…

 

[CorbLand]

Most people worry about while your gone but it’s when your home that’s more important. When your home, be home. Be present and be helpful.

My wife is really good about letting me go do things. I have had people ask me how I am so “lucky?” I don’t go to the bar. I don’t play Xbox. I cook supper many nights. I do a lot of dishes. I take care of the yard. I take care of the vehicles. Either Saturday or Sunday, I make her breakfast. I even go grocery shopping with my wife a fair amount. I do things for and with her. That’s how I am so “lucky.”

 

[idig4au]

Cartier delivers to the door. If in the $hit, have a red a box delivered while you're in the field. It works most of the time!

 

[GSPHUNTER]

Don't go home.

 

[mtnrunner260]

Then next year you can get her a mop bucket, dustpan, or extension cord……

Don't forget an apron and oven mitts.

 

[go_deep]

I just make a solid effort year round to be a good husband, and Father then when I do go hunting or trapping nobody thinks anything of it and wishes me the best.

 

[iamthenick]

Good stack of firewood and a good slow cooker meal go a long way.

I try not to bitch about anything if I come home and the house is a wreck.

Letting her go shop for whatever decorations, Halloween or Christmas.

 

[NDGuy]

Can tell there are a lot of single or divorced folks in here

 

[RocketRob16]

Most people worry about while your gone but it’s when your home that’s more important. When your home, be home. Be present and be helpful.

My wife is really good about letting me go do things. I have had people ask me how I am so “lucky?” I don’t go to the bar. I don’t play Xbox. I cook supper many nights. I do a lot of dishes. I take care of the yard. I take care of the vehicles. Either Saturday or Sunday, I make her breakfast. I even go grocery shopping with my wife a fair amount. I do things for and with her. That’s how I am so “lucky.”

This right here is the answer. It can be tough as a young family just getting started when one partner is gone. The kids are a lot to juggle on your own as well as the many other things that need to be done. It should be a priority that when you are home you're engaged, helpful, loving, attentive, etc. If you're a good, present husband 50 weeks out of the year, being gone the other 2 weeks isn't too big of a deal.

 

[Huntindog45]

i let her boyfriend take care of that for a couple months

 

[Maverick1]

Don't forget an apron and oven mitts.

Good thinking! I was focusing on the short term, 3 year plan. The apron and oven mitts are for the long term, 5 year plan!

 

[Brushcreekbill]

She’s usually back at camp making breakfast while I’m on the mountain.

 

[Dos Perros]

I agree with @CorbLand. 90% of the time you're home...so that's the bucket of time to focus on.

I earn my elk hunt every year with my effort throughout. I lead and offer primary support for the kids' activities. She does a lot too no doubt, but leadership and organization comes from me. I also lead the discipline of the kids. Kids that know the expectations and are held accountable when Dad is home are kids that know the expectations and behave when Dad is gone. Sure, no one is perfect. But there shouldn't be a power vacuum when I'm gone. That makes it a lot easier on her during that time.

Allowing for eating out is a good time saver, she might order sushi or this other healthy place so that she can get kids fed with less effort than usual.

Encourage the kids to take some responsibility too. The way it worked out this year our aeration guy was coming during my hunt, so my boy got the lawn watered before and seeded after. Little dude is very proud to see his little grass sprouts poking up. So I see times when Mom or Dad is gone as opportunities for the kids to take one more, learn more, do more.

Lastly, I'm going to buy my wife a purse.

 

[TaperPin]

Some wives are so emotionally dependent on having someone around they need a babysitter. Many mother in laws come in handy for that. Hey, I wouldn’t marry that kind of woman, but a crazy one comes along with golden mommy parts and our boys are all over it. Leave for a week and she’s ready to burn the house down just to get rid of your funky smell. lol

 

[CorbLand]

Encourage the kids to take some responsibility too. The way it worked out this year our aeration guy was coming during my hunt, so my boy got the lawn watered before and seeded after. Little dude is very proud to see his little grass sprouts poking up. So I see times when Mom or Dad is gone as opportunities for the kids to take one more, learn more, do more.

Lastly, I'm going to buy my wife a purse.

Will be leaving my wife with a 6 month old this year. I looked at the little one and told her that it would be a big help if she could learn to go to the bathroom on the toilet by then. She just blew bubbles and screeched at me. I took that as she wasn’t going to make that happen. She’s a work in progress.

 

[Dos Perros]

Some wives are so emotionally dependent on having someone around they need a babysitter. Many mother in laws come in handy for that. Hey, I wouldn’t marry that kind of woman, but a crazy one comes along with golden mommy parts and our boys are all over it. Leave for a week and she’s ready to burn the house down just to get rid of your funky smell. lol

My buddy's wife ruined his NM Gila hunt this year. Basically he hunted for 3 days and she threw a fit and broke stuff at home and he had to pull stakes and leave his once in a lifetime hunt.

 

[Miflatlander91]

My buddy's wife ruined his NM Gila hunt this year. Basically he hunted for 3 days and she threw a fit and broke stuff at home and he had to pull stakes and leave his once in a lifetime hunt.

Was that the first time he left her for an extended hunt? The wife moved in with me when we were dating 2 weeks later I left for 10 days. In my mind I figured might as well rip that bandaid off right away and see how it goes.


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[HairyScandinavian]

My buddy's wife ruined his NM Gila hunt this year. Basically he hunted for 3 days and she threw a fit and broke stuff at home and he had to pull stakes and leave his once in a lifetime hunt.

Yeah I'm choosing divorce if that happens, clearly not a good match.

 

[Dos Perros]

Was that the first time he left her for an extended hunt? The wife moved in with me when we were dating 2 weeks later I left for 10 days. In my mind I figured might as well rip that bandaid off right away and see how it goes.


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No wasn't the first time. I know he's hunted a bunch before. I don't think her being difficult is new, but it has gotten worse. He's got little kids and is the sole bread winner so I'm sure it's tough.

 

[Q_Sertorius]

Put in the work the rest of the time and you should be good to go. My current girlfriend would only be pissed if I didn’t get anything. Got to fill that freezer.