I usually cook steak / chicken / fish type main course meals with sides like green beans / corn / potatoes / etc, while in the backcountry so I bring an MSR kit with me most of the time. The kit itself comes with 2 pots, 2 plates, 2 cups, stove, and pot holder all fit inside for a pretty compact set. I got a MSR skillet, and two snowpeak titanium plates that fit right on the bottom like a glove. I've cooked for 6 people using this setup before. This is obviously the heaviest of the kits, but you dont have to bring the whole kit either. You can piece it out for your needs per trip. The stove didn't actually come with the kit. The stove I'm using with it I believe is the Pocket rocket deluxe (?) I'd have to look Into that. It's the one with the larger burner. Works really well for simmering. 
I have a small MSR cup, that will hold gas canister, pot holder, and stove inside. I'll bring this with me on quick overnighters where I may only plan on some coffee and oatmeal to get me through. Overnighters I tend to have a large meal before going in, and have a breakfast / lunch spot picked out for when I'm leaving. I do ALOT of these quick overnighters. This setup works great because of its size, and is the lightest of the kits. 
If I'm doing the same type of overnighter with say one other person, then I'll typically bring along my jetboil flash because it's a bit larger then the MSR kit. Jetboil does offer those minimos that look pretty sweet, but they are pricey.
I'll post a pic below to show the size comparisons of each setup.
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