Having a solid family is a better legacy than any wall full of trophies. But stay after it, get a side hustle, elevate your skills, and be patient. I am in the ministry and had to wait until I was in my 50s to get to do some Western hunting and taught myself to make knives for “hunt money.” Don’t stress that sometimes hunting goals are long-term with no instant gratification.
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Family first or your head will never be right. Take care of that lady and you'll be surprised how much freedom you'll earn. My wife wants me to go hunting as much as possible because she sees the work I put in to make sure we're all taken care of. I'd much rather come home to that than an lonely old house with no family. Honestly I'd probably hunt less because I'd be trying to fill that void with (insert not good things usually)
Start with where you're at, learn to hunt well locally so when you spread out, you can take advantage of your skill set. Then you can figure out how many days you're really good for a fall. Don't think hunting a hundred days is necessary or even enjoyable. My sweet spot's about 25-30 a fall. The years I go longer are doable, but it's a grind. You'll figure out what's best for you but not by being like others.
Some guys can hunt 150 days, but that doesn't mean you'll want to.
Have a long-term plan
Don't go in debt for hunting.
Have a hunting savings account.
Your closest western states (if that's what you mean by adverture) are NM and even W. Texas muley if you can find access and even Co, so put your effort there. If you're not after big animals, there's plenty of opps out there to get tags most years, as you build some funds to travel more as you get older. Saving hundreds of miles of travel saves $, days, and mental energy.
If possible, a friend to share expenses with.
and what
@Tod osier said in his posts and
@cnelk and
@Jstumbaugh
you can do most things you set your mind and will to.
but don't screw up a family to do it. It won't be worth it staring out the window alone at christmas.