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Some people think just because they are Dad, they deserve unconditional respect from their kids. You earn respect from everyone in your life, earn it from your kids as well.
Some people think just because they are Dad, they deserve unconditional respect from their kids. You earn respect from everyone in your life, earn it from your kids as well.
Facts. My dad demanded respect as he would semi-praise you out of one side of his mouth and tear you down to nothing out of the other. And he was super critical. If you went 3 for 4 he would want to know about why you didn’t reach base the one time. If you made a b on report card you feared going home… But, that’s how he was raised.
I say that to say this. Yes, I love my dad and respect him. He has a huge heart. But he could have done a lot better when we were kids. He knows that now and regrets it. It took us time to get where we are now. Don’t put yourself in that situation. It’s hard to mend things down the road and you get zero do overs in life. It’s ok if your kids fail. We all do. Just don’t criticize them for it. And ALWAYS praise them when they succeed!
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I was just having a discussion yesterday with a buddy about this. I think most driven people (myself included) have very critical/negative self talk. “Growth mindset” or whatever you want to call it, has a major pitfall in this area. In order in improve and excel at anything, you have to see and focus on the areas that need improvement, not the things you’re already getting right. It’s a fine line between being honest about mistakes so you can improve, and being overly self critical. Nobody is harder on me than myself, and it’s easy to put 100% focus on failures rather than success.
I’ve noticed It’s really easy for that mindset to show up in the way I talk to my wife, without even intending to be critical. It’s just a reflection of my own self talk. My wife has been great at calling me out on this. It’s not that I don’t notice things done well, it just takes effort to focus on it, and verbally affirm. It’s going to take major effort on my part to get that right as my kids get older. My job is to encourage them to do their best. Encouragement is positive, not negative.
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