Access to evidence, legal advice appreciated

[LongWayAround]

Step 1: If you get accused of something like this, don't tell anyone other than your attorney.

Step 2: If you don't have an attorney, get one.

 

[RockAndSage]

Yes, this is one definite possibility. Especially when people are going for sole custody. Trying to take a woman's kids away puts her in a totally irrational state (irrational even for a woman). Expecting a person to behave morally and honestly in that situation is like expecting a cornered rat to just lie down and die.

When I went through my divorce, I wasn't thinking of seeking sole custody, but my extended family wanted me to do that. So, I asked about it. My lawyer heard all the things I had to say about my ex- (none of them in the realm of child abuse, dangerous criminal behavior, or hard drug addiction). Then she calmly informed me that "hell hath no fury like a mother defending her young" and told me that even if everything I said was true, I shouldn't consider seeking sole custody. Because if I did, I would almost certainly get hit with false accusations of spousal abuse, marital rape, molesting my step daughters, etc. Even if I proved it was all a lie, the taint would linger around me forever. And that, unless it was truly a matter of getting my daughter out of the hands of an abuser, it wasn't worth the misery. So, we agreed to joint custody and I ended up caring for my daughter 80% of the time while her mother went off and did her own thing.

**Lawyer hires lawyer to be his lawyer in a court of law.**

That says everything anyone ever needs to know about whether to hire a lawyer.

 

[tony]

Yes, this is one definite possibility. Especially when people are going for sole custody. Trying to take a woman's kids away puts her in a totally irrational state (irrational even for a woman). Expecting a person to behave morally and honestly in that situation is like expecting a cornered rat to just lie down and die.

When I went through my divorce, I wasn't thinking of seeking sole custody, but my extended family wanted me to do that. So, I asked about it. My lawyer heard all the things I had to say about my ex- (none of them in the realm of child abuse, dangerous criminal behavior, or hard drug addiction). Then she calmly informed me that "hell hath no fury like a mother defending her young" and told me that even if everything I said was true, I shouldn't consider seeking sole custody. Because if I did, I would almost certainly get hit with false accusations of spousal abuse, marital rape, molesting my step daughters, etc. Even if I proved it was all a lie, the taint would linger around me forever. And that, unless it was truly a matter of getting my daughter out of the hands of an abuser, it wasn't worth the misery. So, we agreed to joint custody and I ended up caring for my daughter 80% of the time while her mother went off and did her own thing.

And this is why I’ve never married and got clipped after one kid.
Just not worth the inevitable troubles.
Young guy I work with is going through a custody issue now. And it’s funny, the females try and ruin the father, run legal fees through the roof, and then either toss the kid off to dad anyway so they can run the streets. While pissing and moaning about how hard it is to be a “single mom.”

 

[Pulleye16]

…and what was he arrested for the first time????

 

[timberland]

…and what was he arrested for the first time????

burglary when he was 19, ten years ago