send her these
Most people have zero clue of what they're looking for. If i was to look for a video with the stats for her specs, she's mostly looking for a guy thats in probably 10% of the population (not counting the unavailable guys).
I'm gonna toot my horn here. I"m a truthful 6'4", make over $100K, and I'm in above average physical fitness. I account for less than 1% of our population. I've dated a LOT of smoke shows ... But they didn't fit my criteria as partner. I ended compromising on "doesn't have any existing kids" because she fit the bill 100% in every other way shape and form.
Bottom line, guy or girl, you need to have a truthful and honest evaluation of yourself, know what 2-3 characteristics are non negotiable(these should be something like belief/value system, personal responsibility, etc). Then figure out what preferences you have. Preferences can be negotiated (how much money they make, how attractive are they)
You can bump it with a hot chic all day long but if she's ugly inside or a complete mess of a person, then you won't want anything to do with her after date 4.