GSPHUNTER
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If looking for a woman, always remember this.This one has already been study in this report!!!
If looking for a woman, always remember this.This one has already been study in this report!!!
i dont think most do. I have though. Im 32, single for 7 years now. last one was horrible, anti hunter, made me ditch friends for her, couldnt do anything if it didnt include her, etc etc. finally got the balls to leave and vowed to never bother with a woman again. just aint worth it. not to mention, 9/10 of my closest buddies/acquaintenances all dislike or even hate their significant others, and that just gives me zero motivation to go find one for myself.Do most guys just give up?
....................., 9/10 of my closest buddies/acquaintenances all dislike or even hate their significant others, and that just gives me zero motivation to go find one for myself.
Oh i agree most have no business still being together. i know very, very few couples that are actually happy and enjoy being in their relationship whether its just a casual thing or theyre married with kids.Ummm WTF...... well I'm gonna call it now.. 9/10 of your friends are due for divorce.
You should share https://www.gottman.com/ with your 9/10.
Most people fail to even know why they are getting married and then they fail to even ask basic questions or air a grievance with their partner when stuff isn't going the way they wanted. Instead they act like children and bitch to their friends.
Marriage starts with affection but its built on effective communication and the humility the admit you were wrong or you never properly communicated what you wanted
i dont think most do. I have though. Im 32, single for 7 years now. last one was horrible, anti hunter, made me ditch friends for her, couldnt do anything if it didnt include her, etc etc. finally got the balls to leave and vowed to never bother with a woman again. just aint worth it. not to mention, 9/10 of my closest buddies/acquaintenances all dislike or even hate their significant others, and that just gives me zero motivation to go find one for myself.
Up to 25, I was attracted to shiny objects - much like a fish. After that I looked for pleasant looking but common interests and compatable beliefs. By 26 I had exhausted my curiosity and rarely even dated. I learned early that the really attractive ones were nice to look at - ( no closer than 100ft). But in general needed to be avoided at nearly all costs and certainly should not be trusted. Kind of like a sports car. Pretty to look at but not useful.
Internet hook ups are awesome.Internet hook ups have really cooled the desire for long term relationships, especially with women. Even a wall flower gal who is shy, nice and maybe a 4/5 can sleep with an 8 every night of the week if she wants. Half of all women seem to enjoy being cougars - putting guys in their 20’s into overtime schedules.
The funniest thing is everyone on harmony looking for mr or mrs right are also on hookup sights for mr/mrs right now.
I was a shape shifter from about age 18-25. I look back on those days and think WTF were you doing. I wasted time that i will never get back. But, its all part of the process. There was a common denominator as to why all my relationships sucked, and it was me. When i finally (and literally) looked in the mirror and realized i was the problem, i just stopped dating seriously and focused on finding out who i was and what i wanted in life. Turns out once you figure out who you are as a person shit just kinda falls into place. I met my wife about 6 years (dated for 5 and just got married august 2023) when i wasnt really looking. Turns out she was the best thing to have happened to me. Weve had out struggles but the difference is that ive actually wanted to work through them. Im thankful everyday that God has blessed me with that woman.I think you realize why it went south. You stopped being you and resented her for it. She didn’t change.
There was a paper written a really long time ago called “The Feminization of Love” and it was about how guys, in an attempt to woo girls, basically shape-shift into whatever the girl wants, and when one day, the guy shifts back to who he is, the girl is completely flummoxed because the whole time she knew the guy he was the “other” version of himself. So when he changes back, the girl thinks they guy is changing for the FIRST time, not reverting to a former state. This causes HUGE relationship issues.
They’re a couple lessons, one is don’t change yourself to get a chick. Another is to really try to know who you are; make sure you aren’t subtly changing to go with the flow.
Lastly, it shows you that at the end of the day, like most animals, it’s the female who decides who they mate with. When girls complains about the way guys are, they need to answer why they keep mating with that type of guy and propagating the behaviour. And the same goes to guys to an extent…why do girls think they can change men? Because men so readily change to get them.
I was a shape shifter from about age 18-25. I look back on those days and think WTF were you doing. I wasted time that i will never get back. But, its all part of the process. There was a common denominator as to why all my relationships sucked, and it was me. When i finally (and literally) looked in the mirror and realized i was the problem, i just stopped dating seriously and focused on finding out who i was and what i wanted in life. Turns out once you figure out who you are as a person shit just kinda falls into place. I met my wife about 6 years (dated for 5 and just got married august 2023) when i wasnt really looking. Turns out she was the best thing to have happened to me. Weve had out struggles but the difference is that ive actually wanted to work through them. Im thankful everyday that God has blessed me with that woman.
It’s funny when divorced people (even more funny when they have been divorced multiple times) give out relationship/marriage advice.
I mean seriously, you failed at it. Don’t act like you’re an expert.
Depends on the advice they are giving. If they are saying this is why it failed and here is how to not repeat what I did, then its the best person to give the advice. If they are giving advice as if they did nothing wrong (it is rarely one sided) then I would agree.It’s funny when divorced people (even more funny when they have been divorced multiple times) give out relationship/marriage advice.
I mean seriously, you failed at it. Don’t act like you’re an expert.
You were figuring out who you where going to be in the world. That what you were doing.I was a shape shifter from about age 18-25. I look back on those days and think WTF were you doing. I wasted time that i will never get back. But, its all part of the process. There was a common denominator as to why all my relationships sucked, and it was me. When i finally (and literally) looked in the mirror and realized i was the problem, i just stopped dating seriously and focused on finding out who i was and what i wanted in life. Turns out once you figure out who you are as a person shit just kinda falls into place. I met my wife about 6 years (dated for 5 and just got married august 2023) when i wasnt really looking. Turns out she was the best thing to have happened to me. Weve had out struggles but the difference is that ive actually wanted to work through them. Im thankful everyday that God has blessed me with that woman.