Great data points on the ~100gr loads. I think I might check out that route.Drop down a couple weights in bullet. 100 grain range, more than enough for deer. Look into something along the lines of Varget or TAC for powder, I don't have my info on me but off the top of my head i want to say something in the 36 or 35 grain range as a safe starting point (verify etc, etc.). Faster burner, but load a grain or 2 under max. Something along those lines would be a pretty drastic drop in actual recoil. (probably 35-40% off the top of my head).
If your not concerned with speed, you could just load something like Varget with your 129gr also, off the cuff its probably like 33 grains or so as a starting point. Not quite as big of a recoil delta as shooting the 100grain, but it would still be significant maybe 25% ish....
Another option, put a higher quality butt pad on the stock. Like a backstop, or limbsaver. It will help with felt recoil. Its hard to quantify, but something in your recoil range (fairly high but not magnum) it feels something like 25% reduction to me, but that's pretty individualistic.
Option 4, get some dang weight on that gun. That thing is waaaayyyy to skinny.
Thankfully the Howa Superlite already comes with a limbsaver. It's only a 1/2", but very effective. The stock design is also really good at managing recoil. I actually enjoy shooting her's more than my 6oz heavier Kimber Hunter. And yes, it's very light! We use the rifles for snow tracking deer in New England so it's carried in hand for hours on end; light keeps the arms fresh for when an opportunity arises...especially for my 5'4" wife.
BTW, welcome to Rokslide!