How do I become disciplined enough to stop being obese?

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I am male, 33, 5 feet 7 inches tall, 245 pounds and I have a 46 inch waist. Doctor told me the other day to do a PSMF until I get to at least 35 waist inches.

PSMF is all lean protein with veggies for fiber and very little fat. Only what comes on the protein in trace amounts.

Every time I start I make it a few days and then break. How can I become disciplined enough to do what the doctor says and stop being obese and change my life?
 
You have to want to loose the weight. Set some goals that are actually doable. Shoot for loosing 5lbs or something. Then do it again... Cheat on the diet every so often isnt going to kill you, just do it in moderation.

What are you normally eating in a day? Activity?

Also keep in mind that dr telling you that, was telling folks they needed a covid shot or the world was going to end just a few years ago.........
 
I lost 50# in 10 weeks on Adkins and ate like a pig. Gained some back and 2nd attempt didn't work as well. I know several who have lost over 100# ea on medifast; expensive but works if you do exactly what they say.
In the end, you need to change how you eat.
 
I was once in a very similar situation, and achieving consistency was extremely difficult for me (and still is). I think it’s great that you’re looking for help and options. I lost 60 pounds (240 lbs to 180 lbs) and got myself to a healthy body weight by exercising 1 hr at least x 4 days per week, sobriety, and counting calories. You have to be in a caloric deficit to lose weight even though it sucks.

One way that I control eating is to portion out everything I am going to eat into Tupperware containers the night before. I calorie count and make sure that I am in a deficit that I can sustain long-term. If I don’t do this, I graze on a bit of this and that which adds up quick. It is much easier for me to work out consistently with hunting as motivation, but eating has always been the issue. Eating a diet along the lines your doctor suggested is a great way to do it. Use an app like MyFitnessPal to track and actually weigh out with a kitchen scale how much you plan to eat. I do not do cheat days as I fall off the wagon for days after. I do incorporate things I enjoy like flavored Greek yogurt and peanut butter to still feel like I can eat things I really want. Forcing discipline on myself with organization and routine has been the key to my success. Good luck and keep us posted on how things are going!
 
GLP 1 they do work well if you get the right drug and dosage for you. It takes away the desire to eat, freeing up your will power and desire to change lifestyle.

Don't mind the detractors that say its "cheating" or not "natural" or whatever else self-righteous argument they may have against it. It has helped millions of people and saved lives.

Blaming or Shaming obese people doesn't work, and the hardest Are Themselves! Don't get down on yourself, every human has a limited amount of will power- the more you use up the harder it is next time to make a change..

GLP 1 drugs will take away the exhausting use of will power and make that easy. Studies show myriad health benefits and long term success. It will allow you to build better habits with nutrition and exercise that will also take a drag on your limited use of will power.... So I'd recommend GLP-1 then use your will power to set up nutrition and exercise regime that will last.

Also if there is any underlying mental health issues that drive obesity would be best addressed sooner as well.

Good luck.
 
David Goggins. That's who helped me change. His book You can't hurt me on audio book changed the way I think about working out and my attitude. Get the audio book. I hear his voice in my head all the time when I want to give up or quit.
 
I am male, 33, 5 feet 7 inches tall, 245 pounds and I have a 46 inch waist. Doctor told me the other day to do a PSMF until I get to at least 35 waist inches.

PSMF is all lean protein with veggies for fiber and very little fat. Only what comes on the protein in trace amounts.

Every time I start I make it a few days and then break. How can I become disciplined enough to do what the doctor says and stop being obese and change my life?
If you drink alcohol, i would cut that out immediately. No booze, modest diet, and a daily exercise raising your heart rate for 30-60 minutes and you will shed the weight fast. Plenty of good diets out there. Find one you can live with and use it.
 
GLP 1 they do work well if you get the right drug and dosage for you. It takes away the desire to eat, freeing up your will power and desire to change lifestyle.

Don't mind the detractors that say its "cheating" or not "natural" or whatever else self-righteous argument they may have against it. It has helped millions of people and saved lives.

Blaming or Shaming obese people doesn't work, and the hardest Are Themselves! Don't get down on yourself, every human has a limited amount of will power- the more you use up the harder it is next time to make a change..

GLP 1 drugs will take away the exhausting use of will power and make that easy. Studies show myriad health benefits and long term success. It will allow you to build better habits with nutrition and exercise that will also take a drag on your limited use of will power.... So I'd recommend GLP-1 then use your will power to set up nutrition and exercise regime that will last.

Also if there is any underlying mental health issues that drive obesity would be best addressed sooner as well.

Good luck.

Pretty sad that a guy cant even try to loose weight without med's being pushed at him
 
Pretty sad that a guy cant even try to loose weight without med's being pushed at him

If that’s what he needs to course correct, why not?

Sometimes it’s easy to lose hope when you’re so far from the target that you figure throwing in the towel is the best option. If a weight-loss med gives him the push he needs to lose it AND KEEP IT OFF then I say run, don’t walk, to a weight doctor.
 
If you don't have discipline and accountability, not much is going to work longer term no matter how much you lose or how you lose it...it will all come back and maybe even more than you had. Yes, diet and exercise...BUT, you need to partner up with someone who can share the workouts, ideas on diets, hold you accountable and share in the wins.

Join a good gym and also include resistance training as muscle mass burns more calories at rest than fat, that will help along with the diet and cardio. In addition, you will look better when the muscle mass increases and that goes a long way to wanting to continue.

If you can't find a reliable fitness partner, hire a fitness coach to get you where you want to be..and by that time you will know what it takes to stay at that weight. Most are very good and worth every penny if you really desire to be better fit. Most gyms have coaches.

3500 calories equals 1 pound, whether you are burning it off or putting it on.

I am an inch shorter and been 240, but maintain around 208 but with a lot more muscle mass from powerlifting for 10 years (stopped that 5 years ago but still retain most of that muscle mass).

The important path to helping yourself...is admitting you need help and seeking it out.
 
Ambivalence is normal, and educate yourself on your options...which you have started doing:) Surround yourself with a recovery supportive peer group as the support will be very helpful and you do not have to do it alone! Having someone to call when you want to eat unhealthy is a wonderful thing. Weight watchers and OA are two examples.

I lost 55 pounds and have it kept off for years because hurting less from chronic pain was more important to me than eating whatever i wanted (carbs, carbs and more carbs and sugar). Detoxing from sugar/refined carbs is a real thing.

You've been given some good advice by your doc (PSMF is all lean protein with veggies for fiber and very little fat.) That is pretty much what works for me...lean protein, lots of veggies, fruits, nuts, seeds. Most of my fat intake is from avacados, nuts, and some MCT oil/olive oil.

No sugar, HFCS, wheat, white rice (except for some in boudin occasionally), or white potatoes has worked for me.

No more statins, and my lipid panels, metabolic panels and blood glucose are exemplary per my PCP.
 
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