I retired at 54. I made a career change at age 34. I had two kids, wife worked part time and I had a mortgage when I did.
Money is relevant to a point. $100k, 200k, 400k, it's never enough.
Money should not drive your decision. Quality of life for you and your family should. Ya money plays a part, but less than you think. Plus you are young so you can pivot. In your fifties it's a different story.
Doesn't matter how much you make if you stroke out at age 40 from stress on the job. And ya, stress is the cause of most ills. 98% of all who work probably hate their job. It's why it's called work.
This is probably the worst place to come for career advice. But here it goes. Your happiness comes down to the choices you make, not your hourly rate. Find a place that lines up with your personal and moral values, in a location that meets the personal interests of you and your family. You will have to sacrifice and possibly earn less. You guys make big money, especially when you lump in benefits. Having insurance coverage is huge. I don't look at it as a cut in pay because I have to kick in part of my pay. I look at the part the company pays as additional income. Try being self employed. Or live in a rural area where you have to pay for all of your coverage. Be true to yourselves.... can you do with less? Most are not willing to cut the chord, so to speak.
We decided to do with WAY less. I've never been happier. I learned that I just don't need stuff. I just need fresh air and solitude.