I'm not a reloading expert by any means, but here's my best shot at explaining my understanding of this:
Any of those powders with a light bullet is better than any of those powders with a heavy bullet, in terms of recoil and kids. Without getting into the details, heavier bullets just cause more recoil.
Benchmark and something in the 150gr range for bullets is essentially going to be the most efficient at getting you up to acceptable velocities, with the least amount of muzzle blast, as the powder will burn more completely in a shorter barrel. The slower the burn of a given powder with a light bullet, the more fuel will still be burning when the bullet exits, especially in a shorter barrel. Heavier bullets have a slightly higher dwell time in a bore, and that gives slower burning powders a bit more time to transfer their energy to the bullet and combust more fully - especially in a longer barrel. But you can't just chase efficient burn by putting faster and faster powders behind a given bullet, because you'll hit a tipping point of the pressures spiking too high. You're looking to find the sweet spot in balancing out the intent of the round, with the preferred bullet, velocity, and available powders.
The thing is though, just about any of the powders you mentioned will do fine, especially with a suppressor on the barrel. It's not necessary to chase perfection. Go with the powder that makes the most sense, in terms of availability, cost, and what you want to get out of the load. In truth, ensuring your grandkids have the stock firmly against their shoulders, with their bodies aligned to not collapse from that recoil, will do more to "mitigate recoil" and their perception of it than the difference between a 150gr bullet over Benchmark vs a 165gr bullet over Varget.
